Hello all. I'm hoping someone has some advise for me and my 4month old LO. She cries before every sleep and being against CIO I find this very distressing! She has only drifted uncrying into sleep twice in her life (unless fed to sleep). I hold her and rock her while she cries. She can cry for 20minutes and get increasingly distressed (as do I!). Eventually I give in and give her the dummy during the day and remove it once she is lying down (which takes a few goes). Ive been told NOT to use dummy as a sleep aid and to put her down sleepy but it's either crying, dummy or ricki g her to sleep...
At night we don't use the dummy as it has lead to VERY bad sleeping (waking every hr). She usually Wakes after 40mins during day naps and at night sleeps through from 7pm to 1am thereafter waking every 1-2hrs.
She often wakes crying as well, refusing to open her eyes and screaming.
I make sure i settle her when she shows tired signs (usually 1.5hr after last sleep) and we have a bedtime and nap time routine. She is mostly formulae fed. Although she is über wrapped at night I am experimenting with one arm out or sleeping bag during the day..,
I think it's either she needs to expend the last bit of her energy before sleeping, is protesting at having to go to sleep or doesn't know how to transition to sleep without going through crying.
I feel like I'm doing cried out and I don't want to! How can I help her learn how to settle without the dummy? Any advise greatly appreciated!