Just wanted some opinions and advice on some stuff that is going to come up when our baby is born (due early January). DH's family does the whole courtesy aunts and uncles thing, so when close family friends are called aunts and uncles, or by grandparent names.
I have a large family (my mum is one of 10) and therefore have heaps of genuine aunts and uncles and have never called anyone aunt or uncle who wasn't, funnily enough DH was raised that way too, it's only changed for the IL's later. Our poor kids have to get their heads around 30 genuine aunts and uncles alone (including great aunts and uncles). DH agrees with me that we need to avoid calling anyone who is not an aunt or uncle by that title.
Here comes the bigger problem. DH has a cousin, who neither of us have any time for anyway, and in the last couple of years she has gotten closer to his parents and started calling them mum and dad, and referring to DH and his brothers as her brothers. Now this bugs me as it is, but my MIL and the cousin will expect her to be called Aunty ****** which I really don't think I can handle. She is not an aunty, she is a cousin, it will be hard enough to explain the family relations to our kids anyway, I'm 26 and still get it wrong. DH agrees with me but we both know that it will cause a massive sh!tstorm if we tell them that she is not going to be called Aunty.
Don't know what to do