I prefer to text my MIL so she has time to think about it and it's also easier to say No in my opinion. There is more pressure when you call.
I would bring it up with your MIL in front of your DH at the BBQ saying 'I heard you were a little upset that I texted instead of calling - I only texted as I knew you were busy at golf and didn't want to put you on the spot with a phone call if you weren't able to help us out'
It will most likely make them both squirm!!!
P.s I hate when my husband doesn't stick up for me! I get so mad about it! He should have told his mum to take it up with you herself or keep it to herself. IMO!
"Oh, my cry-baby mommy's boy husband told me that you cried and complained like a little bish because I asked you via a text message whether you would mind looking after YOUR GRANDCHILD! I'm terribly sorry, I didn't realise that it would be so offensive to you. Never fear, it won't happen again, you old cow."
Or some other words to that effect. You know, keep it diplomatic etc.
I haven't read all the replies but I txt my mum and MIL all the time and I have asked for babysitting via txt. I personally don't think its rude, my Mum and MIL txt me too asking for things.
I think if she has a problem with it then she needs to tell you, and if she doesn't tell you directly then don't worry about it.
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