+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 35
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    in a wormhole
    Posts
    2,769
    Thanks
    4,600
    Thanked
    2,802
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I think she sounds like a troubled teen. I'd be having a discussion about facebook and its dangers and what she thinks is appropriate and why.

    And I'd be educating her about Aids.

    Is she seeing a counsellor (I think I remember you posting about her before)? Maybe you could raise it with the counsellor.

  2. #12
    Join Date
    Mar 2007
    Location
    amongst the gumtrees
    Posts
    2,106
    Thanks
    30
    Thanked
    39
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    Default Re: What do you think about this from a teen?

    She was but they didn't gel and with her ignorant attitude it didn't help. She is quite troubled and has a lot of hurt from her mum. At the moment our aim is to keep her at school and off the streets

    Sent from my GT-I9100 using BubHub

  3. #13
    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Location
    In the sticks!!
    Posts
    20,635
    Thanks
    3,222
    Thanked
    2,540
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts

    Default What do you think about this from a teen?

    Education about aids definitely.

    Also either close down fB altogether or at least have the computer in a public space.

  4. #14
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    in a wormhole
    Posts
    2,769
    Thanks
    4,600
    Thanked
    2,802
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Its great that you've taken her in full time now and care so much. From what I remember its been a pretty tough and rocky journey. I don't think there's much else you can do but keep monitoring her, restricting her computer access like you have, and keep talking. I hope things improve now she's got some stability.

  5. The Following User Says Thank You to MissMuppet For This Useful Post:

    Luna Lovegood  (10-09-2012)

  6. #15
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Posts
    5,279
    Thanks
    2,361
    Thanked
    2,023
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by RunawayPrincess View Post
    I don't think I'd MAKE her write an apology, I'd encourage her to, but I would want it to be genuine. Making her do it IMO wouldn't be genuine, unless she wanted to and saw that her words/actions were wrong.
    I don;t think apologising (or not apologising) would be of any benefit for her at all, but what about the girl who has aids? It might be nice for her if she realises she is the one being joked about.

  7. #16
    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Location
    In the sticks!!
    Posts
    20,635
    Thanks
    3,222
    Thanked
    2,540
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts

    Default What do you think about this from a teen?

    It sounds like she probably does smoke weed? Do you know if she does?

  8. #17
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    14,057
    Thanks
    1,875
    Thanked
    2,608
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts

    Default What do you think about this from a teen?

    Quote Originally Posted by Luna Lovegood View Post
    I don;t think apologising (or not apologising) would be of any benefit for her at all, but what about the girl who has aids? It might be nice for her if she realises she is the one being joked about.
    And what happens after the OPs SDD apologises, then a week later does similar to the girl again? I think that would be even worse than the OPs SDD not apologising. So unless the apology is genuine, then I don't see the benefit to anyone involved in forcing the SDD to apologise when she may not mean it.

  9. #18
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Location
    adelaide
    Posts
    9
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked
    2
    Reviews
    0

    Default Re: What do you think about this from a teen?

    I'm not saying its right, but this is normal behavior from today's teens. So just be aware this sort of thing doesn't mean she's a bad kid. And many of her peers will be doing simular and not being punished for it.

    Sent from my HTC One X using BubHub

  10. #19
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Sautéed with bacon
    Posts
    6,070
    Thanks
    271
    Thanked
    2,695
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default What do you think about this from a teen?

    Quote Originally Posted by mrsmammy View Post
    I'm not saying its right, but this is normal behavior from today's teens. So just be aware this sort of thing doesn't mean she's a bad kid. And many of her peers will be doing simular and not being punished for it.

    Sent from my HTC One X using BubHub
    I'm not disagreeing with you, I wouldn't know. But that makes me so sad to think that could be true...
    I'm terrified about having teenagers if this is normal...

  11. #20
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    2,730
    Thanks
    1,522
    Thanked
    1,961
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I have a lot of experience with teenagers (I'm a high school teacher), and would agree with mrsmammy - it's pretty normal.

    Of course, that doesn't mean it's acceptable. I'd certainly be explaining to her that it was unacceptable, and why. I'd also be talking to her factually about AIDS - what it is, ways it's transmitted, what it means for people living with it etc.

    The thing is, she's 13. Whilst some kids are quite aware at that age of the consequences of their actions, others REALLY aren't. I find when it comes to bullying etc. that MOST of the time, the kids aren't really intending to hurt other people... they just think something is weird/funny/they want to fit in etc.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Teen mom 2
    By melimum in forum Movies / Music / Books / TV Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 03-04-2012, 09:19
  2. Asd teen
    By Jenga in forum Parents of Children with Special Needs
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 19-02-2012, 13:39
  3. Help please! Fun yet funky party games for the pre-teen/early teen crowd please!
    By Mod-biscotti in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 17-02-2012, 23:15

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Einsteinz Music
Make music at Einsteinz Music in age-appropriate class in Sydney's Inner West, Eastern Suburbs or North Shore. For ages 6 mths - 4 yrs. All music is live! Christmas Gift certificates available for full term or casual classes. Call 0431 338 143
sales & new stuffsee all
CarmelsBeautySecrets
Growing your own natural nails is easy. Years ago, I devised a simple and very effective technique which really helps boosts the nails' growth in as little as three days! And most importantly keeps them that way.
featured supporter
Shapland Swim Schools
Semi private learn to swim classes for a maximum of 3 children in specialized heated teaching pools. Our swim schools are located across Brisbane, Ipswich and the Sunshine Coast, ensuring there's a school near you.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!