Bit of background - I left my husband 12 months ago. It was messy for the first 4 months because he just wouldn't leave the house, kept coming back etc etc. I wasn't strong enough to just tell him what was what and have always just done what would cause the least amount of arguments.
Anyway, he's now got a girlfriend and YAY good for him :-) I don't want to be with him but that doesn't mean he should be alone for the rest of his life, I'm genuinely happy for him and I just want him to be happy.
My issue though is that I don't think they've been together for long at all and he's already introduced our kids to her. Just speaking to him on the phone now and he said that he 'hasn't been home' in ages so obviously he's practically living with this girlfriend and her son.
I have been seeing someone for 12 months, pretty much since I separated from my husband. It's a long distance thing but very serious. My boyfriend hasn't yet met the kids though as I don't want people bouncing in and out of their lives and wanted to make sure any new partner was going to be around for a while before I introduced them to the kids, even just as a friend.
I see my boyfriend on the weekends that I dont have the kids and in the school holidays when they're with their father. We have actually gone 5-6 weeks without seeing eachother due to finances and such.
I guess my issue is that XH has the kids 3 nights a fortnight. Why can't he see his girlfriend on the other 9 nights and just spend time with the kids when he has them? Especially given that he hasn't been with this girl for very long? I don't know, I guess I just think that it's a bit reckless to introduce someone too soon.
Or maybe I'm just overthinking it? I really don't know. Does anyone understand?