Yep Meshell I have 3 children - a boy and two girls. We have been trying for 19 months for #4 (which isn't as long as some of you but much, much longer than any of my others took to conceive - I've also had 2 MC at 9 and 10 weeks).
I had a MC 12 months ago and we have been trying since then and it just did not happen. I knew something wasn't right so I was tested and so was DH. DH was tested in July and his SA revealed poor morphology at 2%. He was then re-tested by the clinic and is now 1% - so getting worse. Basically we don't have a chance of falling naturally or if we did, it would take years and given our age, we don't have years. So, basically we jumped on IVF as soon as we knew DH's results.
I'm just grateful for the opportunity to go back again. Secondary infertility is a b*tch and probably very different from primary infertility because you are already blessed and it comes with a lot of feelings of guilt etc for wanting another when you already have one (or more). The yearning in your heart and the ache for another babe just does not go away. So, here were are hoping that this will prove successful for us. I've give this year to try (as well as the years before) but if we don't get lucky at this clinic that will be the end of the road for us. So eternally grateful for the 3 I already have. I am hoping to at least get 3/4 tries in at the clinic (though they are so busy so who knows).