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    Default Re: Anxiety over parent interaction means your lo's miss out on play dates?

    Quote Originally Posted by sparklebug View Post
    So on dh's advice (who is very much the social butterfly lol) I have tried when entering the room smiling and greet all the parents - so that they actually hear me, I've found it does actually make me seem less snob like lol and more approachable. Oh and a lot of deep breaths on your way there
    Will def keep this in mind for future use - thanx chick

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    Default Anxiety over parent interaction means your lo's miss out on play dates?

    Quote Originally Posted by loop View Post
    hm, well I am a mum that really enjoys playgroup and chatting to other mums... but I still get anxious and wonder if I said something silly if I meet new people. We dont have family here, and the mums I have met have helped me so much I dont know what I'd do without them. And yeah, DS does really enjoy meeting people and hanging out with his buddies. But I am a crap mum at home, TV on lots and surely not enough quality play
    Anyway, I am not the best smalltalker really, I am better with the real deep stuff (IRL, not so much here, odd). So if I get stuck not knowing what to say, or there is someone new these are some things I ask about:
    - firstly smile and say hello
    - whats your childs name, how old, cute pretty, chatty ect
    - are you from here? No, how long have you been here (were from far far away lol)
    - siblings?
    - have you any holidays planned? where was your last one?
    - do you, did you will you, what is your work?
    - have you any pets?
    - talk about our last holiday
    - the usual babble about how your kiddies sleep, eat, poo ect...
    - weather

    It really is luck of the draw though whether you find a nice group of mums. If I didnt have a nice playgroup I'd prob go to toddler gyms, music and such more.
    Also, its sometimes easier to talk to other peoples kids if you are really more interested in socialisation for your own. DS is starting school next year, and I am actually quite excited about meeting the mums. We just moved to this area, so I will probably say something like how nice it is to meet local mums now, and do you know the school well, have you lived here long, where is your house and so such babble.

    Get out there girls, chances are the other mums are just as scared as you! My friends ALL think about conversations before, during and after, you are not the only ones.
    Haha, love it! Thanks loop

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    Default Re: Anxiety over parent interaction means your lo's miss out on play dates?

    Quote Originally Posted by loop View Post
    hm, well I am a mum that really enjoys playgroup and chatting to other mums... but I still get anxious and wonder if I said something silly if I meet new people. We dont have family here, and the mums I have met have helped me so much I dont know what I'd do without them. And yeah, DS does really enjoy meeting people and hanging out with his buddies. But I am a crap mum at home, TV on lots and surely not enough quality play
    Anyway, I am not the best smalltalker really, I am better with the real deep stuff (IRL, not so much here, odd). So if I get stuck not knowing what to say, or there is someone new these are some things I ask about:
    - firstly smile and say hello
    - whats your childs name, how old, cute pretty, chatty ect
    - are you from here? No, how long have you been here (were from far far away lol)
    - siblings?
    - have you any holidays planned? where was your last one?
    - do you, did you will you, what is your work?
    - have you any pets?
    - talk about our last holiday
    - the usual babble about how your kiddies sleep, eat, poo ect...
    - weather

    It really is luck of the draw though whether you find a nice group of mums. If I didnt have a nice playgroup I'd prob go to toddler gyms, music and such more.
    Also, its sometimes easier to talk to other peoples kids if you are really more interested in socialisation for your own. DS is starting school next year, and I am actually quite excited about meeting the mums. We just moved to this area, so I will probably say something like how nice it is to meet local mums now, and do you know the school well, have you lived here long, where is your house and so such babble.

    Get out there girls, chances are the other mums are just as scared as you! My friends ALL think about conversations before, during and after, you are not the only ones.
    ((HUGS)) thanx this is awesome - my ds1 is starting school next year too and I'm excited to meet some mums in the area until I think about the initial contact and then freak out (fingers crossed I can meet some other first timers and we can be anxious and nervous together)

    sent from my happy place while I steal 5min for myself


 

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