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    Quote Originally Posted by WineTime View Post
    But you've said several times now that slapping someone would be an uncontrolled response from you. So by your own admission if a child in your care spat at you, you would then slap them as you're unable to control your behaviour like a normal adult.

    You dont sound like a person who should be caring for children as employment...

    And the fact that you can't grasp the ridiculousness of you justifying your inability to control your own violent physical reaction while at the same time condemning a CHILD for being unable to control theirs is phenomenal.
    No i would not slap a child in care for the above, they are not my child.

    I am also not.legally allowed to smack a child.who isn't mine full stop,

    So yes my reaction would depend on the situation and.my relationship to the child

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kirby star View Post
    No i would not slap a child in care for the above, they are not my child.

    I am also not.legally allowed to smack a child.who isn't mine full stop,

    So yes my reaction would depend on the situation and.my relationship to the child

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    So then....it actually IS a controlled response if you can control it based on environment and r/s to the child.
    Only uncontrolled around your own children.
    Alrighty then...

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    Implying? No. Genuinely concerned that the uncontrolled response you admitted to having was controlled in your work environment.
    Be concerned all you like, i have not nor would i ever smack a child who was not my child.

    I have been spat on, bitten & sworn at by children in care & no i did not nor.would i ever smack them

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    So then....it actually IS a controlled response if you can control it based on environment and r/s to the child.
    Only uncontrolled around your own children.
    Alrighty then...
    It's only controlled cos it legally has to be.

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    Just popping this in here for those of you that say smacking your own child is not classed as abuse:

    I was taken away from my parents and put into foster care for two months when I was younger because my friends parents reported mine for smacking me.

    It happens, it's illegal and most of all unacceptable!!!

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    It SHOULD be illegal, but unfortunately it's not, yet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    So then....it actually IS a controlled response if you can control it based on environment and r/s to the child.
    Only uncontrolled around your own children.
    Alrighty then...
    Guess so, nfi tbh.

    As i said i do not have a 5 year old, pretty much 100 percent sure by 5 my child would know it is unacceptable to spit in peoples faces, being that i do not smack him now for it maybe i would not then,

    If i spat in someone elses.face (be it adult.or child) and they slapped me one for.it i would say well i deserved it.

    I was going of what I know my reaction would definitely be if an adult / teen spat in my face.


    And to everyone else if you read my comment you would see that not ONCE did i say my possible reaction would be acceptable.

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    I couldn't be friends with someone who had such a massive difference in parenting methods to myself.

    I had to end a really good friendship with someone because the way she patented her kids was WAY too different to mine and it was starting to cause issues within the friendship and also with DDs behavior.

    Looking back now I have no regrets! I can see it was the best decision ever.
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    I couldn't be friends with a person that sets no boundaries for her children. If the child snaps at his mother like that, I'd be scared what he'd do to my child..

    And I actually agree with Kirby and would give the child a smack. Not hard but they've embarrassed me in public so I'd like the child to see how it also felt to be embarrassed not to mention that behavior is down right disgusting and needs to stop!!

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    You want your 5 year old to be embarrassed? That's concerning, I really don't get that logic, they hit so you hit back, they bite so you bite back, they embarrass you so you retaliate? Where is the parenting ? And what hope does a five year old have modeling that behavior? I could never be friends with parents that treat their children like that as yes I too would be concerned they would treat my child like that
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