There is always a trigger for bad behavior. I generally try to understand what is causing the bad behaviour and treat the cause first. No, I would be embarrassed and apologise to my friend first. Then I would talk to ds to see if I could find out why...was he tired, bored, feeling neglected etc. And try to remedy the situation peacefully. If it couldnt be done i would apologise and leave. I like to negotiate consequences with ds and would do that in the car on the way home.
Haul **** outta there and probably seek medical advice, because if my daughter was doing that it would be so far from normal that it would signify a huge problem.
They would taken straight outside, than depending on what child it was and their level of special needs if any at all, we would work out what to do from there. I would than ring my friends and apologise and try and make amends after I had dealt with the child.
The child has no special needs and was not unsettled, they just seemed to believe this behavior was fine. The mother (someone I was at lunch with today) did nothing, even smiled at the child while they spat in her face and it was only on the tenth hard punch to her head that she said "that's not making me feel happy."
My DS1 is naughty at times but I always explain why it's not ok and insist on kind and respectful behavior.
Just wanted to make sure others would have raised their eyebrows at the restaurant moment too!
There was also a moment today when DS1 was being bossy to this child so I asked him not to and reminded him to ask nicely. The mother said with a smile "oh don't worry, if he's bossy my child will just punch him" er.... no.
1- run backwards and forwards yelling at the top of their voice in a crowded restaurant. She would be in hardcore trouble. At 5, she knew that crap wasn't on. There are ways to behave in public, and that's not one of them. I'd let her know i was angry and there would be consequences, like no XYZ for a week or something.
2 - spit in your face and your friends faces. I would YELL. Then I'd send her to her room and make some sort "No TV for 2 weeks!" kind of punishment. When I had calmed down (and apologised to my friends profusely - something she would also be required to do!), I would explain to her why that was so very disgusting and how if I EVER catch her doing something so revolting again, the punishment will be much worse.
3 - hit you hard on the head repeatedly. - As above.
If he was yelling in a restaurant, then I would take him outside and see if that helped, if it didn't, I would leave.
If he spat or hit, then we would go straight home, have a stern talk and revoke privileges.
I've had a couple of incidents with him recently where he refuses to follow instructions in shops (ie. he just sits down and refuses to walk or listen to me), and I have just abandoned the shopping trip and dragged him out empty handed, much to his dismay.
I suppose the mother could be at the end of her tether with her child's behaviour and is just trying to get on with it. If he is continually behaving like that, I would be seeking some professional advice as I don't know how the child will cope with school etc.
I have a few 'friends' (and i use that term lightly) with child that behave like this i'm blown away that they do nothing to stop it and don't seem to care. my kids still hang around with theirs but they know that what the other kids do is not acceptable to me and they understand that even at 3 and 2 let alone 5
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