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    Default Re: How would you respond if your child...

    I've whacked jasper and screamed when he was three years old, breast fed to sleep started to pull back and them full jaw clamped and locked down on my nipple.

    .... I challenge anyone to remain calm with their nipple stuck in a bear trap....

    *edit* and still not even that hard. Didn't even wake him he DID let go. Thank goodness. His breast feeding days were numbered after that!

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    #1 I would firstly get the child to stop - hopefully by a verbal instruction, but if that failed then physical restraint. I would then explain to them that the noise was unacceptable and disrupted other people. I would also scan the area to find a place where they could run or dance or spin around to let off some steam, and give them position to do so in that space, as long as they did so quietly.

    #2 Spitting in someones face is unacceptable. The child would be told this was unacceptable and instructed to sit still for a few minutes. If they were incapable of doing so they would be restrained until they stopped struggling, and then required to sit still for a few minutes. After which time it would be suggested for them to get up and use up some energy.

    #3 Whilst I don't believe I would tollerate being hit from a 5yo, I must admit that I have with a 3yo. DD3 repeatedly hit me out of frustration when she was young, and I spent a lot of time ignoring that behaviour. It was only directed at me, so she wasn't hurting anyone else, and thus I was able to do so. Thankfully she grew out of it by the time she was 4yo. Sometimes I would ignore her, sometimes I would physically restrain her. Sometimes I would try to explain to her that I loved her very much and didn't like it when she hurt me.

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    OP I think it's good your re giving the mums other chance - the way the child spoke so beautifully to your child shows that the parents are doing something right. He hasn't learned those types of words from nowhere. Hopefully with some gentle advice to help from people like you the mum can build on what she's doing well and do better.

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    Default How would you respond if your child...

    Quote Originally Posted by twotrunks View Post
    OP I think it's good your re giving the mums other chance - the way the child spoke so beautifully to your child shows that the parents are doing something right. He hasn't learned those types of words from nowhere. Hopefully with some gentle advice to help from people like you the mum can build on what she's doing well and do better.
    Thanks twotrunks

    The mother is a very loving mum who is going out of her way to do what's best for her child. Hopefully she'll keep learning and questioning like we all do

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    Default How would you respond if your child...

    Quote Originally Posted by Nowhere View Post
    The thing that i dont get about the whole i would also slap an adult that did that etc etc is that an adult has a different level or social grace than an adult an adult has a different level of understanding a different IQ level, is different in just about any way to an child unless of course it is a person with a diminished mental capacity having them function like a child. Now that being said if we expect a child to behave in a certain way and control there own action shouldnt as adults we be able to do that as well. If not then who the heck are we expecting to teach our children how to do this???

    Now if a child in my care or an adult in my care with a diminished mental status was to spit in my face or do any of the other things that you was mentioned i would follow the same method of reason and disipline that i explained in my above post ( following ABA stratergies, of remove from the situation break down what happened, work out trigger, in tern come out with consequence, alternate response and in tern reward one the alternate response to what ever made them act that way has been acheived ) the reason i would do this for an child and an adult in my care with diminished mental status is because the two have not got the same level of understanding as my self or another fully functioning adult.

    If a adult in my company did that to me i would simply remove my self from teh situation as I would not have to be around such a person there is no way no how that i would want to socialise with such a person so, ME being a fully functioning adult being in control of my thoughts, feeling and actions and them being a fully functioning adult in control of there thoughts feelings and actions, I would Just up and leave because I can do that you cant do that with a child you cant do that with an adult under your care.

    It is impossible to compare the two for the simple fact they are not the same
    I'm not entirely sure why my post was quoted in this response. I hadn't compared how I'd react to a child, to how I'd react to an adult. Nor did I mention an adult with diminished mental capacity. Just answered how I would react to MY child in that situation.


 

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