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    you cant make a kid popular no matter what you do, its something they do them selfs and often not intentional or for any reason we can think of thats the beauty of kids they dont see the cr*p we see.

    I want my DD to be happy thats it

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    Default Re: Kids 'fitting in' and 'being popular'

    Fitting in is different to being popular. I don't wish for my children to be either in particular. But there is certainly a hope that my children will learn to follow some of the basic social "norms" eg use manners, speak directly, don't run around screaming obscenities in public and flapping their arms or whatever..
    I want my kids to be able to function in society without too Much hassle and to some extent yes that means following the rules. But I don't want them to be unquestioning or followers. I have no interest in popularity contests of any kind. I wasn't popular ever. I also wasn't bullied though.

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    I want my kids to be them selves. If they are "nerdy" well good one day they will be the boss of those bullies and other kids lol if they are "popular" so be it to

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    I want to add that as a child I fell into being popular. Even after I left the 'popular' group during year seven I was still considered by others to be popular. I don't think anyone realised that I was bullied and didn't consider anyone my friend and I didn't feel like I fitted in. In fact I am incredibly socially awkward and shy now. Nothing my parents could have done, just how my personality turned out.

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    Weeeell I just figure my natural awesomeness is hereditary, so she can't help but be totally cool. Not to mention all the help I'll be able to give her with drinking wine from an early age...

    I hope she fits in, in that I hope she 'gets' how to behave in different situations. I hope she's popular, as that means that people like her. But I only mean in the sense that she has lots of friends and a happy easy time of things at school.

    I loved school, and had some great friends and great times there. DH hated it, and was bullied. The stories he tells me are just awful. I want DD to have a good time there and never experience anything like DH went through.

    I don't think we're doing anything proactive on the parenting front (apart from the wine education ) - just trying to raise a happy, confident, well adjusted little girl as best we can, and giving her lots of opportunities to socialise with other kids and try out new things.

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    I dont necessarily want my kids to be popular....just want them to be liked by their peers and have friends. I certainly dont influence what they do/play/watch etc so they fit in but I probably encourage them to be involved in something if they show an interest to help them meet other kids.

    DS1 is an introvert and I know he desperatley wants friends so I try to help him whatever way I can.

    DS2....well....he runs to the beat of his own drums and seems to be happy on his own. But I dont want him to become a loner so I do encourage play dates.

    I guess I was a lonely child (become a lonely adult) and I dont want my kids to feel sad if they think they have no friends.

    So I suppose I may encourage behaviours that will help them fit in but I wouldnt actively get the new whatever so they can be popular. Does that all make sense?

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    I will raise my son to be himself, if people feel the need to abuse him for this then they are the ones with the problem
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    I have taught my kids that being who you are is better than being a fake person. Not that i need to worry about as my kids aren't trend followers. Iykim

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    I think that parents who worry about their kids popularity seem to do so out something that made them unhappy about themselves when they were younger. Every parent wants their child to be happy. How ever you cannot predict what would make a child popular. At the school I went to there were very smart people who loved reading who were also very popular (and beautiful), but then there were some who weren't popular and spent lunch reading as well. There are overweight popular kids, thin attractive teens that no one likes, the redheaded kid that everyone loves and the redheaded kid that gets bullied over it. If there were a magic formula for being popular, or a certain activity that guarenteed you success socially then I guess it would make more sense to try and make your child be popular.. however it just can't be taught, nor predicted. The only thing you can do to help your child is to help them have a strong sense of self and happiness in who they are. This way no matter what happens, they can still be happy about who they are overall and it is not based on how others think or say.

    So that is what I am striving to achieve. Kids who are happy being proud of who they are and also kids who grow into adults whose actions aren't determined by what others might think.

    Even popular kids can feel bullied. I knew some popular girls who were scared to go to school because the "unpopular" group were spitting on them and calling them s1uts and laughing at them and calling them ugly and b!g hole etc - for being beautiful.

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