Various conversations with friends lately and the bullying thread got me thinking -
How much do you raise your kids with the focus of them fitting in and being popular?
If this is a big focus for you, why? Is it to prevent bullying, because you believe it will help their self esteem, or a reflection of how you felt as a child?
I'm a little surprised how many people I know of base a great number of choices on making sure their kids are cool and popular, from someone I know being worried that her book loving three year old will be a nerd, from parents trying to make sure their toddlers like the popular tv shows to other parents choosing education choices based largely on their kids being popular if they make that choice.
Maybe I'm biast because I've never really given a rats about conforming or fitting in. I don't *want* to click with everyone because it would mean I don't have much of my own identity, and if I don't fit in with a group I just find people I have more in common with.
Obviously I want my kids to have rich and happy lives but their future peer popularity hasn't really altered my plans.