I'm curious what others would do in this situation.
DS1 is 14mths and a friend of mine has a 16mth old girl. We usually catch up once a week but I've come to dread it. My friends daughter is much more advanced and outgoing than DS and he is frequently pushed over (on purpose), hit on the head, screamed in his ears and had things grabbed out of his hands by her. DS1 is very quiet and sensitive and when my friend tells her daughter off he gets upset thinking it's him getting in trouble.
A second issue is that my friend also doesn't let me know if they are sick until after the kids have made contact. Twice now DS1 has caught a bug from my friends daughter, the latest is gastro where my friend announced halfway through the playdate that her daughter had come down with it that morning. So I'm sitting here with a vomiting toddler and a screaming 6 week old all because they came over while she was sick. Not happy!
What would you do? I know my friend is doing her best with her daughters behaviour and that its tricky at this age. I've come to dread the playdates as either DS has a tough time or gets sick. Would you say something, or try and avoid them?