Just emailed ex and explained the situation - he will probably do something to make himself appear 'normal' before he arrives for sundayvisitation...
Sounds scary, I would push for supervised visits, sorry so have to live like this
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well I emailed ex (as I said) but he didn't respond (as expected) then turned up this morning to take oldest child and when I asked him about the email he refused all knowledge of it (as expected).. I described what the email was about and he rolled his eyes (again as expected) then told me he was tired (as expected again). He seemed okay so I let him take our son today but warned him to be careful etc..
I then get a response to the email a few hours later (from the emai he didn't get) to tell me that he was depressed on the phone that day because it was fathers day and he was just opening the children's presents and he only got to see our oldest child and anybody with half a brain would know that... well:
a) it wasn't fathers day it was thursday this week
b) he did see all the kids fathers day but seems to have forgotten that.. I also organised for my mother to take the two youngest to the park to see him if he phoned her to arrange a time which he said he would do but didn't bother with... so he had the chance to see the kids.
c) he already opened their father's day gifts when he was here seeing the kids but again seems to have forgotten it all?
more and more cause for concern but again.. nothing I can prove. He did say he is on new anti-depressant medication and that might have made him tired (third excuse?)... but he would just deny that if I brought that up again.
How long has he been on the new AD's? Can they coincide with the strange behaviour flare up? Some AD's can knock a hippo out with being tired etc.
BUT, having said all that... I wouldnt be allowing the visits unsupervised until his AD's have been stablisied and he has settled down on them. The warning signs are clearly there. Keep the email he wrote ^^^ as it's evidence that he is lacking time perception and his memory is lacking currently. Evidence that he cannot look after a child in this condition.
Stiflers Mom (09-09-2012)
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