Quick recap for those that don't know me...
Divorced 3 years
ex has never recovered and accepted things (I ended it due to him being a prescription addict, pathological lying and steeling our money)
We have 3 young children
settlement and concent orders done - he has no overnight and is supposed to see the kids twice during the week and Saturday but as yet he's never done this for more than a week at a time
earlier this year he had a huge breakdown and tried to kill himself
I refused visitation till he got a letter from his psychologist confirming he is ok and one from his dr confirming he is safe to see/drive the kids on all those meds (he's been a prescription addict for over 30 years)
I had to get heavy with a $olicitor but I eventually got a letter from his psychologist say he should not have unsupervised access with the two youngest and limited contact with the oldest (8)
I never did get any info re the drugs and he brushed it off
hes never organized supervised visitation for the two youngest so he only says hello to the when collects the oldest child one the weekend for the day
if started to notice he's rambling mor do than usual slurring his words and tonight he got the kids names wrong on the phone while he was talking to the (and forgot our sons public speaking event he was supposed to come to) he seems vague and rambling... My do. Told me (after his last visit) 'daddy was crying today and told me if anything happens to him like he dies etc then to remember he's his son' which really annoyed me and of course my son had nightmares about death after that. I told ex off and he said he wouldn't do it again.
On the phone tonight he was saying to our son 'I'm going to take you for a elk along the cliffs near the city (Brisbane) which terrified me as he was calling him by our other sons name.
So okay - I know my legal standpoint - I don't have to let him take them if I feel it's not save. But my worry is my son... He will be heartbroken if I say no to going with dad and both him and his father will make me feel like crap about saying no (should ex turn up stoned) - how to I deal with my son? He's a little worrier and tonight I explained in very dims imply terms that if I felt daddy was slurring (like he just was on the phone) I can't let him go with daddy... Because I just worry about his safety' but my son said he is also now eorried soi stuffed up a bit - advice?