Hugs to you both! (Tearing up in my little box, too!) Last year I drew a lot of comfort from talking with the ladies on the "Loss" thread and finding out that I wasn't a basket case - that it was a perfectly normal process of feelings I was going though. I loved that while in real life I had to solider on and pretend nothing had happened (since we hadn't told anyone), I at least had a virtual place where I could get support and feel like I was normal. Roro, that's a really insightful analogy - your FS's wife has hit the nail on the head. While I think we'll always carry some sadness with us over what happened, looking back now I feel like it's given me a better appreciation of how precious that child will be for each of us when they arrive. And I hope its given me some more empathy, to understand that people don't always mean it when they say they're okay. It's a tough ask, but don't give up hope ladies - there will be a next time!