Oh, MrsErinR, I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you today and hoping you and DH can support each other through this. I know it's so hard and I can't think of any words to make it easier. Is the FS treating you well and helping you work through what to do now?
(my brief update: after FET I had a few days of faint BFPs but it didn't stick, again, so we're having a natural month before going back to ICSI ourselves next cycle.. .. waiting takes forever. have a FS appt next week re my recurrent losses (four early losses counts as recurrent)).