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    Well here I am with a chance to reply to you properly finally. I love reading how you're all going!
    Vivre - Keeping everything crossed for you for a great result. The waiting must be awful! I'm also on the Crinone and tomorrow they add Progynova tablets twice daily. Are you on these? I'm worried about this part because they're both super hormones and I wonder what it will do to my sanity. I keep asking my husband if I've gone mad yet and just not noticed. He assures me it's no more than usual! Good luck with your sanity as you wait.

    Byline - Yes, we're definitely transferring 2 embryos if we have the chance. However I'm scared to get my hopes up as we only had 3 to start with that fertilised so we may not be so lucky. I love your Cup day drinks and holiday to help the good luck along. If only you'd told us to relax sooner....I hadn't heard that before.....MUCH!!!

    Mrs ErinR - Well done on the injecting. It's such a big thing to do! How was the second one? I found that in the end I could do the pen myself, but I never did the second one. I didn't realise I was such a softy until this happened, but hubby had to do it for me. Any side effects yet??

    Gentoo - I have everything crossed for you that you never meet the FS next year! You must be thinking that we're surrounding you with IVF talk but I love hearing the results of acupuncture etc. My clinic recommends it as increasing the chances of conceiving and if it's prior to IVF, all the better I say!!!

    RoRo - So sorry that you didn't get a positive result. I was really sad to read that and hope that this month is a good one for you as you ready yourself for the next phase. If we don't have success this time we'll be waiting a month also to rest the body, whether it's frozen transfer or fresh next cycle, I think that's the recommendation from our clinic.

    Well, we're in waiting mode and sending up lots of prayers and love to our little growing embryos before our egg transfer tomorrow. I'm so scared that I'll get a call today to say that none have made it. I know I'll be disappointed if we're only left with one too, not that I should complain about that. So I'll get through today and hope that we're on our way to the city again tomorrow for the big moment. Hubby is coming with me now. I told him not to as it means another day away from work, but he's decided he wants to be a part of it. Of course I'm super happy about that, it will be lovely that he's there.
    Well, off to work. Good luck girls!!!

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    Hi Ladies,

    It has been a while since I wrote on this thread....I found out I was pregnant with a honeymoon baby late Sept and was over the moon! Early Oct we found out we were having twins. Sadly we were told that our babies 'were no longer viable' last friday at 10.5 weeks and I had a d&c on tuesday just gone. This has been the most devastating time and I scared to death that we will never have the healthy baby we dream of. I am 36 and DH is 40 so time is not on our side. I miss my babies and the feeling of them growing inside me. To all those struggling with their own journeys my heart goes out to you...everyones journey is so unique and we each have our own heartreaks to deal with..I hope we all have the babies of our dreams in the very near future Xx

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    Oh Debstar, that is such terrible news, I am so sorry. I think that going though a mc is so much more difficult over 35 because of the fear that you mentioned, of never being able to have a healthy baby. I know it's easier said than done but please try to look after yourself and not worry about that. I have no doubt that those of us who have had a mc will all conceive a healthy baby soon. In the mean time just do your best to look after yourself.

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    I'm so very sorry to hear your terrible news, Debstar. It's a really rough time, both emotionally and physically. Please don't feel like you're alone! If you need to vent, or if you need comfort, we're here to listen! Several of us have been through the same horrible thing, and understand how you're feeling.

    It's a terrible, and even terrifying time - you doubt your body and you doubt yourself, and it's perfectly natural to worry about whether it was your only chance. Eventually, once the clouds start to lift, you'll come to realise that it wasn't - but it takes time to start to heal the gaping hole that you feel inside.

    I think that the people around you generally underestimate how long it will take you to truly come to terms with what has happened, to move through the grieving process, and to begin to heal. They may think that you've dealt with it and moved on, when in fact inside you're still an emotional wreck. My best advice is to not feel pressure to move on, just to suit other people's timeframes. Grieve for as long as you need to, and don't feel like your grief is abnormal or not okay. Other people didn't have the connection with your future children that you did - they didn't carry them for 8 1/2 weeks - and so it's hard for them to comprehend how strong the bond you had was.

    The other important thing is to let your DH know how you're going. I tried to put on a brave face for weeks when inside I was a mess, but looking back now I think it would have been far more helpful and healing for both of us to just admit how broken we felt. Our DHs may also feel like they need to be strong for us and so can't admit how they're hurting, so be kind to him as well.

    Sending lots of hugs your way - I'm very sorry that this has happened to you.

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    Thank you everyone for being so understanding..Gentoo - Broken is exactly how I feel...My whole world has stopped and I amnot sure how I am even still breathing yet everyone around me is carrying on their day as if nothing has happened. I am grateful that DH and I have been talking on leaning on each other a lot. His way of coping is to keep busy and think about the future which I understand but is also frustrating for me. I need to stand still for a while..I miss the babies I never had the chance to meet and I miss feeling pregnant. I am going to start seeing a counsellor as I know this wound will take a long time to heal and I am worries about how I will cope with any future pregnancies with this over my head. Reading about everyones journeys on here gives me hope and inspiration so this feels like a soft place to land for a while

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    Gentoo that is the loveliest post Ive read in awhile and big hugs to both you and Debstar.
    Its ironic for me as I thought miscarriage may have been my problem for genetic and other illness reasons but so far I havent even go that far. Fingers crossed it wont be the next challenge for anyone here

    I meant to add to Bylines previous post about just realxing at my IVF support group, one of the husbands dares to suggest that maybe if he wife just relaxed they might be better off. Apart from the 20 dead stares from everyone in the room, the girl running it said she read an article once that war zones usually have quite high pregnancy rates so if you can get pregnant there welll, all of us must have other issues

    Thanks for all the good vibes, Im on the edge of going insane. I have never had time travel so slowly and I seem to go through pretty much every pregnancy symptom known to Google. I had hot flushes this morning (its all fun)
    Nat, what does the Progynova tablets do? Im only on 1 Crinone dose a day & thats fun enough. Ive heard it mentioned as devil cream but its hard to say whether its your mind and/or the drugs that slowly send you mental

    Hope MrsErin is still doing well on the jabbing & not suffering too much & good luck for tommorow Nat.

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    Oh Debstar76, I’m so sorry to hear your news. My condolences to you and your DH. I haven’t been through that myself but I can see that some of the other ladies here have some good advice to offer you. I hope it gets easier for you soon, but take the time you need to heal. I wish there was something 'right' that I could say but there are just no words.

    Nat256 and Vivre, yes, I’ve included the 2nd injection now. I was scared of that one hurting after reading some things but in reality I haven’t found it bad at all. (I hope I’m doing it right!!!) Whilst the needle is not too bad the side-effects have really started kicking in. I was tired on the first injection, but now I’m extra tired and just feel a little ’cloudy’ if you know what I mean. I’m not thinking clearly and it’s hard to concentrate. I have my first BT/Scan on Saturday…fingers crossed for some good follicles.

    I’m also having acupuncture so I’m quite the pin-cushion these days.

    After ET I will be using progesterone pessaries twice a day and taking a tablet called cabergoline. It's funny how all our drugs are different.

    RoRo…no floods of ewcm yet…haha. It has started a bit today though (cd6) so maybe that is yet to hit!!

    Nat256…good luck for tomorrow. I’ll be thinking of you.

    Vivre…fingers crossed for your BT too.

    Gentoo…I also hope you don’t ever need that FS appointment!! I think you should give Byline’s ‘relax’ method a go.

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    Debstar76, I just don't know what to say except that you are cared about here and we feel very priveleged that you see this as a 'soft place to fall'. Fall away! We would love to be your support and strength and your cheer squad at whatever stage you're at.

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    I find it amazing that even in the midst of your own emotional struggles you can all still make time and space for me - thank you I am so grateful and humbled by the support in this chat room. As I read abut your stuggles and own emotional journeys I remember why we are all here - we all desperately want the same thing and will do most anything to get it! May we all have that wish come true soon! For those of you on the IVF journey I wish you all the best. I have not had that experience (although I know lots who have) and one thing I have come to learn is that we all have our own journey to go through..and at all times we all feel as though we are alone (although we never truely are). Thank goodness for chatrooms. I can't bring myself to talk to friends and family right now. They say they understand and I know they are trying but I feel like everyone is trying to push me forward before I am ready. I struggle to see how life can go back to normal after any of this.....and I am so angry at the world right now

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    Debstar76, I'm truly sorry for your husband and yourself. I can only imagine how angry you must feel. You have every right to feel whatever emotion you feel. There would be no correct way to feel.

    Nat, good luck for today. We will be thinking of you.

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    Byline, how did you find an acupuncturist? I'm thinking of starting acupuncture while we wait for CD1 of our FET cycle.
    Roro, I always had it in the back of my mind to look into TCM and acupuncture if we had been trying for over 6 months. We know a few couples who have had success when other methods did not work for them. We had a holiday in Port Douglas in July, we gave it our best shot ever, and had no luck (probably weren't relaxed enough). When we came back, there was a flyer in amongst our mail for a TCM guy. I was clutching at straws, and thought this must be a sign to start looking now. We didn't choose him as we felt he covered everything. We wanted someone who was really focussing on fertility. I consulted Dr Google and typed in acupuncture, fertility, Melbourne, then went through the results. I wanted a registered Chinese Medicine Practitioner, but also one who had had a background in western medicine. We have been really happy with out choice. Just make sure you work with an acupuncturist who is not opposed to IVF. You will probably find that 99% of them aren’t, but you want to be sure you have one who is working with you and your FS. I’d say go for it. You have nothing to lose (except money). Since starting I have had no cramps around AF, or clots. I have a lot more energy and the herbs I have been on have been cleaning out my liver.
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