I have two besties, A and N. we are all 25, been friends since highschool.
N and I are wanted some advice regarding A.
For the last year, she has started to get depressed about herself and what she's hasn't done in the 7 years since highschool. She feels upset because she hasnt travelled, gotten a degree, or saved any money even though she has been working since highschool finished.
Because of this, A has lost her self confidence, and has created body issues for herself.
N and i are having trouble understanding the body issues Im not exaggerating when I say out of the three of us, she was the tall, pretty, thin blonde one. N and I are the short chubby ones, who never got a second look when clubbing with A.
Last week A got Botox to 'fix' her forehead 'crease'. She had the smallest line between her eyes when she frowned, which stayed there for a few minutes after the frown. She fixated on this flaw and was constantly down about it until the Botox.
N has recently told me that A is now considering a labiaplasty to 'fix' down there because she 'hates the way it looks, it's ugly and sex doesn't feel good'.
N and I have tried to tell her that she has had bad sex in the past, because she has only dated 3 guys, all short time periods, and all of whom were selfish jerks, whom I doubt would do anything to please her in the bedroom.
N and I are worried this is the beginning of the end.
We feel that her issues are not physical, but emotional/mental.
However A will not listen to us. So we want to talk to her older sister J about it and get J and As mum to interfere and try talk some sense into A.
But N and I are worried we will lose As friendship if we go behind her back about an issue N was sworn to secrecy not to tell anyone about.
What would you do?
What should we do?