View Poll Results: What did you find was the most effective way of dealing with a bully?

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  • Ignoring them

    3 16.67%
  • Hitting them

    2 11.11%
  • Telling them to stop

    5 27.78%
  • "running away"/changing schools etc

    2 11.11%
  • Other

    6 33.33%
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    Im not sure where the line is between teasing and bullying?

    I was teased for living in an Aboriginal community in primary school and my first year of high school. My parents really instilled in me how sad those kids were and how they learnt that attitude off their parents. They basically said to stand up for what's right and/or ignore them. That worked well for me.

    My sister had the same problems and after trying for a length of time to ignore it etc with no success, mum and another parent pulled her and her friend out of school and homeschooled them for the rest of the year til it died down a bit and they got a different teacher.

    Im not sure I'd call my experience 'bullying' though as I was very popular otherwise.

    ive taught my kids the same thing. I don't step in unless it gets too big for them to handle themselves as I believe it's important for them to have the tools to deal with it on their own if they can.

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    I changed schools, it did not work as the group of girls then started bullying me at the bus interchange, shops, following me home from school etc.
    It was somewhat of a smaller town, so the new school I moved to just had the same problem as the girls had friends at my new school and they told them to pick on me.. Blah blah blah.
    I became very depressed, was put on anti-depressants at age 13 for suicidal behavior, the final straw for my parents was one day coming home from school the group of girls bashed me up, I went home and had an attempt.
    They pulled me out of school from that moment on, focused on mental health and got me help.
    My dads work arranged for him to be re-located and we moved 1200kms away.
    Moving away, new school etc I did not have one more problem with bullying for the rest of my High School years.
    I tried many things and I put up with a lot from these girls, there was 12 of them.
    Ignoring them and being thick skinned only got me so far and only made them more angry.

    My parents went to the school and the police about this group of girls on many occasions.
    Nothing seemed to make them care or stop doing it, I wasn't the only one they bullied either
    About a year ago one of them sent me a very nasty Facebook message! Wtf?
    I then went though and found all the girls and blocked them.

    If my daughter was being bullied, it would depend how sever it was and how it was effecting her to how I would act upon it.
    It's something, due to my own experience, that I wouldn't take lightly.
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    I actually told my parents who had a chat to the principal, who then called us in to the office, asked if there was a problem as someone has mentioned it, we both acted oblivious (obviously I didn't want her to know I "dobbed"). From there on we were friends even.

    There were other people who bullied me but I ignored the lot of them and they stopped eventually.

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    I ignored them. But my parents told me to fight back, say no, basically stick up for myself. I just found ignoring them worked best because you are not giving them the reaction they are looking for.

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    My parents advise was to ignore them. however seeing that didnt work I found beating the sh!t out of them did. Well at least threatening them that i would and not backing down when they tried starting fights. I have dealt with them in school but I found brute strength works over words lol

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    My parents never talked to me about stuff let alone bullying. A good friend was bullied in school pretty bad and I helped her out. They tried to pick on me when that happened. What worked for me is to just have true confidence and a don't give a $hit attitude. If they said "we're going to punch your head in." I'd say "oh please do, then I can go to the cops, have you charged, get you expelled and that would be awesome.". I'd they then called me a 'dobber' I'd say something like "yeah, that's me!".

    If they tried the personal insults (picking on hair etc) id say something like "yeah you're right I'm having a pretty $hit hair day. Any suggestions?"
    - it took the steam right out of the bullies.

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    I was constantly picked on by some girls in the year above me in primary school, and then again by some girls several years above me in high school. I couldn't for the life of me figure out what it was about me they hated so much! One day at a party they took me into a bedroom and threatened me to stay away from one of the girls'boyfriend' (was nowhere near him).

    After that my friend and I wrote the 'main' girl a letter - and after that they left me alone!! On top of that they were friendly!

    As for the other girls that bullied me over the years, every single one of them later apologised for their atrocious behaviour - this all happened after school finished and I saw them around in a social context.

    I guess I was a target because they thought I had it all - but little did they know I was trying desperately to hold it together due to the stress of living in an environment of domestic violence at home.

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    I voted other..

    I moved schools and it all got better, But I will not call it Running away..

    I moved as nothing else was going to be done and it worked a treat.

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    I changed schools heaps as mum always moved around, so being the new girl all the time set up me to be bullied. I also never had all the expensive clothes and shoes that the private school girls had, nor did I have copper foils at 15 like them

    I found the best way was to stand up to them. I remember cornering one bully, away from her little pack, and told her in no uncertain terms I would beat her head in if she didn't leave me alone. It stopped from that day forward. I don't condone violence, and the truth was, I probably never would have hit her. But my point is, I've found dealing with the bully one on one without their mates helped me.


 

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