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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    Spinoff I guess..

    This is bound to be controversial...So I ask... Please keep it polite and if someone says something that seems really awful, just remember that you attract flies with honey...

    so educate rather than character assassinate..

    Ok.. so do you believe that abused children are more likely to abuse their children.

    Do you think that counselling/therapy changes this?

    do you think people can stop the cycle of abuse and if so, how?

    anything else , please add..

    remember there are plenty of women in here who have been through abuse..so tread careful.

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    Statistically speaking, I believe abused persons are more likely to become abusive, but it is most definitely not a given, and many things, including counselling, can reduce that risk.

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    I think there is a greater chance, yes. Abusive behaviours are learnt behaviours. But that doesn't mean it will automatically be the case. If a person has enough insight into themselves, or has a strong sense of right from wrong, the will not to continue the cycle or to in fact break the cycle, then no, it doesn't mean they will continue in the same way. Some people are able to work through this themselves, some people need counselling. No one path is the same.

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    Sorry couldn't remember all the questions.
    As for stopping the cycle if abuse, absolutely you can stop it. Many people who were abused actually become, what's the opposite of abusive? Like they are so determined NOT to repeat the behaviour, you know what I mean?

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    I don't think of abuse as a cycle. It's not like poverty. Abuse is a choice. The perpetrator lacks self control. People that are abused physically, emotionally or sexually do need councelling to learn it wasn't their fault and skills so that they don't fall into a abusive relationship patterns.

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    I was s3xually abused for 6 years by my step dad (5-11) and I don't know much about this 'abused children becoming abusers'. So I am very interested to see what people have to say.

    As a mother now I want to do nothing but to protect my children from ever having the childhood I had.

    What makes an abused child become an abuser?

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    Ways to "stop the cycle"

    Counselling
    Good supportive relationships
    Building resilience
    Having other trusted adults in your life
    being self aware and reflecting on ones own behaviour
    Self-work such as meditation/Reading
    Having good role models
    Having good friends you can talk to
    Joining support groups

    There are many more....

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    Default Cycle of abuse.. **trigger warning** child abuse

    Quote Originally Posted by Neekie View Post
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    What makes an abused child become an abuser?
    I guess that's the same question in reverse. See my previous post. My response to this would be NOT having any of those things that stop the cycle, eg not having any good role models, not having any opportunities to build resilience, not being self aware etc.

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    I think some abusers were abused..

    I also think some abusers were never abused...

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    Research shows that around 80% of abused people do not become abusers themselves. In fact, most are quite staunch protectors of children.

    The 'cycle of abuse' is something of a myth. And a hurtful myth.

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