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    I'd be embarrassed. In saying that though, sometime it's appropriate for a partner to stand up for you or have your back, when it's done without them looking like a controlling idiot.

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    Ha! I reckon you know the same people as me sassy. I know one couple in particular that do this. Except the female is even worse, she makes up lies and even her dh believes her then he fights for her believing only her side of the story. It's such a BS situation because every one is really careful with them. And they are relatives too so we can't just ditch the friendship.

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    HAHAHA Nicole do we know the same person!!!!! So pathetic

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    My husband and I get involved in each others battles sometimes. We are certainly not weak or control freaks.

    The fact is, in our marrraige we are a team. If my husband is being used, poorly treated etc. and is feeling anxious, down and stressed about..... I will not hesitate to defend him and help him fight that battle. And I am certain that he would do the same for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jarylee View Post
    The fact is, in our marrraige we are a team. If my husband is being used, poorly treated etc. and is feeling anxious, down and stressed about..... I will not hesitate to defend him and help him fight that battle. And I am certain that he would do the same for me.
    Yeah, but I would rather my DH be my sounding board, and I his, to help me work out the best way to handle a situation rather than handling it for me.

    I think if my DH went to my boss about a work issue it would completely undermine me as an adult and a (pseudo)professional. I would not be happy about that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    Yeah, but I would rather my DH be my sounding board, and I his, to help me work out the best way to handle a situation rather than handling it for me.

    I think if my DH went to my boss about a work issue it would completely undermine me as an adult and a (pseudo)professional. I would not be happy about that.
    I understand what you are saying

    However for me it depends on the situation. Sometimes we are confident and strong enough to fight our own battles and sometimes we need support in other ways. That's how it works in our marriage anyway!!

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    It shows the woman has no balls and the man is a control freak.

    It's the same as when people get their spouses to call in sick for them at work: it looks pathetic and just raises questions about their intentions and the dynamics of the relationship.
    I don't see this as a issue I've had my ex dp call in sick for me as I was to sick to talk on the phone. How is that pathetic he rang them while I was passed out from a flu letting them know I wouldn't be in.
    But fighting my battles no way in hell do I let anyone fight my battles for me a d if they did I would battling them cause it was my problem not his

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    What if you have laryngitis

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    What if you have laryngitis

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    In this case I think it would be best to email in sick rather than come across as a weakling

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    Dh would never do that. Wouldn't even cross his mind. However there was one situation I just couldn't face a couple of years ago and he did alot of the sorting out for me (def not fighting, he is way calmer than me) and I was sooooo grateful.


 

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