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    So my birthday is this Saturday. For the last 10 years my birthday has been overlooked by almost everyone from my exdp to my own parents and best friend. I haven't seen a birthday cake in that time or even a happy birthday other than via fb. Last year dps family followed trend and forgot. We'd been together for 7 months at that stage but it's been a serious relationship from the start. This year I've decided to take it into my own hands and I'm going to go visit my uncle who I haven't seen in years and spend my birthday in Sydney with him and his partner. Last night dps mum rang asking dp what I wanted to do for my birthday and he told her I had plans to go away for the weekend to spend it with my family. She seemed miffed and said 'well I expected her to do something with family here (dps family) so maybe she can see her uncle the weekend after?' I got on the phone to explain that no I'd be going on my birthday. She doesn't have anything planned, rather just thought I might like to have a picnic or something (knowing I hate the outdoors.....)

    As far as I'm concerned if they couldnt even be bothered to say happy birthday last year then f*** em! I'm not spending yet another birthday in tears feeling total rejection and humiliation as every year some part of me hopes someone will bother to surprise me and break trend. She said to ring her if I think of something I'd like to do through the week, which won't be happening by the way I'm feeling about it.

    Is this petty?
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    No I don't think so. It's YOUR birthday so you get to do what YOU want in my book. Have an awesome time in Sydney

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs E View Post
    No I don't think so. It's YOUR birthday so you get to do what YOU want in my book. Have an awesome time in Sydney
    This ^^^

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    Nope I wouldn't think so, especially if she's planning on doing something for your birthday that you wouldn't enjoy, have a wonderful time in Sydney

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs E View Post
    No I don't think so. It's YOUR birthday so you get to do what YOU want in my book. Have an awesome time in Sydney

    this exaactly. go to your uncles have a blast. this is one day of the year that is designed to be all about you so if they question you on your decision just tell them that. its not being petty at all.. hugs hope you have a fantastic birthday.

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    Nope not petty at all.. It's your birthday, you can do whatever you want because it's your day.. Enjoy your weekend away!!

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    Nope id do the same thing. Do what you want

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    I think you are being too harsh on your dp's mum...she is not at fault for the last 10 years of neglect. Maybe last year they should have known and said happy birthday, but, serious to you or not, 7 months is not a huge relationship.

    As for going to Sydney....no problem at all!! Go and have fun and enjoy it, that is your right.

    However, I would welcome your DP's mum doing something for you...you don't want to set yourself up for a repeat of the last 10 year by rejecting her genuinely trying to do something nice. Otherwise, next year, she will still remember being rejected when she offered and won't want to offer again. Call and say you'd love to do something with them either the weekend before or after.

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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    I think you are being too harsh on your dp's mum...she is not at fault for the last 10 years of neglect. Maybe last year they should have known and said happy birthday, but, serious to you or not, 7 months is not a huge relationship.

    As for going to Sydney....no problem at all!! Go and have fun and enjoy it, that is your right.

    However, I would welcome your DP's mum doing something for you...you don't want to set yourself up for a repeat of the last 10 year by rejecting her genuinely trying to do something nice. Otherwise, next year, she will still remember being rejected when she offered and won't want to offer again. Call and say you'd love to do something with them either the weekend before or after.
    I do agree with this.

    Have a great time in Sydney. Maybe ask if ILs would like to go out for dinner the night you get back? Keeping the peace is sometimes a really good idea.

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    Default Re: Am I being petty?

    I think definitely you should keep your plans for Sydney, but do something with mil as well. She is making an effort this year, even if it's not quite what you are interested in, and if you don't seem interested in celebrating with them, she probably won't bother next year.

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