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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

    What do you think?

    Thankfully I've not needed Time Out or anything else as yet, as DD has only had a few mild tantrums that were manageable.. But I've always wondered what techniques I'd use when the situation called for it.

    Do u think Time out works, or do u think it's harmful? What techniques do u use to calm your upset/angry/badly behaving child?

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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

    Well what are you supposed to use then? You shouldn't smack now you shouldn't time out? There has to be some consequence for bad behaviour, surely?

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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

    I put my rabid 3yr old in his room. Absolutely no way will he be subjecting us to one of his performances. He comes out when he's calmed down or I go in and find him reading books.

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    have you got a link to the research?

    I have researched this particular method of behaviour modification and most of the research points to it being one of the least harmful and most effective methods for young children when done properly. But I guess like anything, there will always be some studies saying the opposite - its about studies that are replicated and backed by solid research.

    Timeout is not meant to be a punishment per se, it is meant to be time out of attention as opposed to time in with attention. There is a law which states the more you give attention to something the more the act/behaviour will occur - this is the premise that time out is based on. So time out straight after bad behaviour results in the child getting NO attention, via the method of time-out. I don't believe any method of behaviour modification is free of negative effects, but that goes for most things in life.

    I researched this topic last semester, so I guess this must be very new research you are referring to. A link would be good, if you have one.
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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

    I was smacked and had time outs as a kid and I'm not traumatized so I see no problem with it. I don't know anyone who became traumatized from it - it taught us discipline and boundaries and those are two very important lessons for children.

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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

    DD self imposes time out.

    She'll get upset and stomp about something and then declare she is going away to think about it.

    It works for her (and me).

    Is she self-harming?

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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

    I give DD1 time out in her room to think about what she has done. Seems to work for us

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    Default New "research" shows Time Outs can be harmful to children?

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    I was smacked and had time outs as a kid and I'm not traumatized so I see no problem with it. I don't know anyone who became traumatized from it - it taught us discipline and boundaries and those are two very important lessons for children.
    I was smacked and while I wouldn't say I'm at all traumatised it did make me very resentful to my mum, and probably had more negative affects than positive- for me personally. I've always found time outs more effective with my DD and DSS and DSD. Now that they are a bit older (8,9,10) we use removal of privileges like computer time etc. I did try smacking DD when she was younger, I'm not overly proud of that, and TBH, it upset me more than her and it didn't phase her much at all!

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    I didn't think this was new info? Dr Louise Porter has been around for a while - I have her book "Children are People Too" and it's a good read.

    I personally don't use time out/naughty corners, but I don't judge anyone that does.

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