I'm a step Mum of DSS13 & DSD11 and have been with them since they were almost 6 & 8. We have a wonderful relationship & I am particular close with DSD who asked her Mum if she could call me Mum as well without any prompting from me or DH. We get on well with BM & her partner & they have the kids most of the time. We see them every few weekends and most school holidays. We have always let the kids lead the way but they know there is lots of hugging & kissing for hellos and goodbyes on my side of the family as we live so far away from each other & they really get into it when with us. They are very openly loving towards me & also BM's partner in front of both sides. We try to make it as comfortable as possible for them & it makes it a much happier time!