To make the right decision at times like that.
If the male pill was approved I would have him chat to a doctor about that option too. Not meaning to diss on young girls but I wouldn't trust anyone else with contraception affecting me, and I would encourage my son to not rely on anyone else either (unless in a stable long term relationship where he could support a bub if something failed).
i fell pregnant on the pill and using condoms combined
we are very open about sex and our bodies etc and i trust that my kids will be able to discuss these issues with us, when the time comes
Agreed with VicPark 'laying the groundwork' is crucial. You can throw as many contraceptives at them
as you like but there is never any guarantee that they'll necessarily use them or use them perfectly. In the end it boils down to their own ability to be responsible for their own actions and their own willingness to avoid any potential risks.
Personally as a teenager the fear of my father's reaction to me being pregnant was enough to warrant me doing absolutely everything in my power (other than abstinence...) to avoid it from happening.
I fell pregnant when correctly using a condom (it broke) and taking the morning after pill within 24 hours. But DH and I used withdrawal method for years without an accident.
I plan to educate my daughter about sexual health and choices well before she's old enough to be wanting to do it, lol.
Yup, this. I got pregnant using a condom which broke, I took the morning after pill and after 13 hours I vomited. I rang the doctor and he said there is no way it would fail as I didn't vomit until that much later. And there we go, a baby on the way.
There is no safe form except abstinence.
I'm 26 weeks pregnant and I was strictly on the pill when I fell... Not the first time either!
It seems, without a joke, the pill is what makes me fertile!!
My parents were both incredibly open with me from a young age about how babies were made. I was educated on sex and contraception prior to going through puberty. Both my parents made it clear that it was ok to talk to them about that stuff and I was comfortable doing so. They did everything possible to keep me informed on sexual health and safety. As a young teen I was kept close tabs on and my parents had no qualms about driving to a party an hour away from home late at night because I had refused to come home. Again, they both did everything in their power to keep me safe, well supervised and were open and honest about why. My dad even took me to an STD clinic when I contracted one at 16 to hold my hand and make sure I was given a long talking to by the doctor about safe sex. I was given a packet of condoms when we got home.
And yet, I still Lost my virginity at 14 to an older guy and went on to fall pregnant at the age of 17 due to not using contraception. I knew HOW to use it and I knew where to get it for free, if I had spoken to my parents about wanting to go on the pill, needing condoms, etc, they both would have taken me to a doctor or supplied me with it, no problems.
My point is, it had nothing to do with how educated I was or how committed my parents were to being responsible, open and approachable role models for their teenage daughter. it had to do with me being 17 and thinking I was invincible. No matter how hard a parent works to keep their child safe and healthy and informed, the plans can still change pretty quick.
Not to say that I won't be doing the same thing as both my daughters mature. Just saying that I won't be beating myself up, or them, if all my well laid plans fail.
Stiflers Mom (02-09-2012)
Id also hope that my DD and I would have an open, honest and mutually respectful relationship so even at 16 or older she would still feel she could trust me and talk to me about her contraceptive needs.
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