My Mum, no. I wouldn't be sad nor would I have anything to do with the funeral, much less go.
My brothers, one I don't even know so no. The other raped me as a child, so quite frankly I'd almost feel relieved if he died. My little brother, I'd be sad but still wouldn't attend.
Other family I don't talk to but I would probably be saddened by their passing would be my uncle & aunt.
As for the FOB's in my life.. well.. I spend every day wishing they'd disappear
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Wouldn't go to the funerals of my Dad's parents or his sister. It would be hypocritical when I have no respect or love for them.
I said goodbye & mourned the loss of those relationships years ago. I don't think I would feel anything if they died. They have had no part in my life for 20 years now, they are already dead to me.
my dad's immediate family & cousins, no i wouldn't go. they are already dead for me.
I faced this decision 2 years ago. My father who I had not seen for 20 years, since I was 14, I didn't even know where he lived, was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
He was not an evil man, but he was a terribly selfish father and husband.
I received a phone call out of the blue to say he had only a few weeks to live.
I always assumed I wouldn't want to visit him in this sort of situation, (I remember thinking many times when I was younger that if he died it would be simpler for everyone) but I was suprised that I could not escape this niggling feeling that I had to see him.
My thinking was I would possibly regret not going, more than I would regret going.
Anyway I dragged my family 2000 miles away,and I visited him. I saw a sick sad man, old before his time. I even lied and told him that I loved him. It seemed a simple way to offer some solace to a dying man, whose 3 other children would not visit him.
He was still the same bitter, selfish man he always was, but he was weak now, not the powerful figure of my childhood. I found peace leaving the hospital room feeling like the bigger person.
So in my case the decision I thought I would make and the decision I had to make were different in the end.
Up until recently i probably would have gone to (my dads, and i hate even using that word now) funeral but after the latest converations i had with him where he hold me to, and i quote 'die a painful death and rot in h3ll'... NO WAY would i go to his funeral and TBH wouldnt care if he died. In fact, i would probably be relieved as all the cr@p would be over with.
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