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    A question for those who have nothing to do with their family, or some of their family, or similar.
    How would you feel (or did you feel) if/when they died? Would you go to their funeral? Would you even care?

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    Default Those who have mining to do with family...

    I probably wouldn't go. I'd care but it would probably just be a sadness that things got to that point.

    ETA It would depend exactly who it was.
    My ex (FOB) was recently in a very bad car accident (suicide attempt) and I made up my mind on the spot if he didn't come off life support I would not go and would not take my 3year old DD's. Infact I didn't even care when I heard.
    Harsh? Maybe, but he is an awful person who put us through so much and my DD's do not know him and think of my OH as their Dad.
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    My father? Wouldn't care and wouldn't go to his funeral.

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    2 of my brothers, I would be sad for my mother & nieces and nephews.

    I think i would attend the funeral *if* my mother did but i would not feel sad for myself or my ds


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    I've thought about this often with my father. I don't think I'd be overly upset, I never speak to him, not sure I'd go to the funeral either ...

    But then, the reality may be vastly different ...

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    I was forced to go to my mum's. If any of her family; my grandma aunties uncles etc I wouldn't as far as I'm concerned the day my mum died all ties with them died with her.

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    I have nothing to do with any of my family. I imagine it would be somewhat upsetting to hear the likes of my mother passing simply because she is my mother. I wouldn't attend the funeral though.
    Hearing my father had died wouldn't have any impact on me.

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    No, i wouldn't. I have nothing to do with certain family members in life, i would find it hypocritical of myself to attend their funerals. I also have no respect for these family members, so wouldn't for that reason either.

    I would care if they died, but only because somewhere deep within me i have a sibling connection to them, but that connection doesn't go further than that. I would feel sad for my parents having lost a child, i'd have more sympathy for them than any other feeling.

    As far as my father is concerned, i'd be sad if he died, and i'd attend his funeral, even though it's been many, many years since he and i had a good father/daughter relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Inked Mumma View Post
    I was forced to go to my mum's. If any of her family; my grandma aunties uncles etc I wouldn't as far as I'm concerned the day my mum died all ties with them died with her.
    I feel very similar to you. When my Mum dies, so does most ties with her part of the family for me. It's sad, but that's how it is

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    I've been thinking about this today.
    I don't think I would care if they died. I wouldn't go to their funeral, I don't respect them and have no deisre to say goodbye to them. I said goodbye to them a long time ago (wish they would actually get the message though!).
    I don't think I would regret it later on down the track. I haven't regretted cutting them out.
    Perhaps there would be some sort of relief, too.


 

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