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    Default What would you do? Unfenced pool

    So I'm having a little problem with the in laws. Generally great, some jealousy, possessive issues every now and then with the MIL, but it's not constant. However, we're having our first child in a couple of months and they have an unfenced pool about 5 steps from the back door.

    About 6 months ago, when we found out we were expecting I said to them on the day we told them that I would not be comfortable having my child in their house when they have an unfenced pool. I therefore requested that they have one up before the baby is born. FIL said that's completely reasonable, we'll have it done. MIL got a little bit defensive that we had mentioned it, but said it would be done.

    It's been brought up a couple of times since then with signs of frustration from them (particularly MIL who seems to take this as a criticism) that we mentioned it but still they said it would be done.

    Now FIL says it will be done, not by the time the baby is born, but by the time it's crawling. They've clearly completely ignored the fact that we wanted it done before the baby is born. I realise it won't be necessary when it's a newborn, but we were trying to avoid an arbitrary date like 'crawling' (what counts as crawling to one person may not count to another). I'm really uncomfortable with this. They've helped us out with so much stuff, and I am grateful, but I just can't see this as a minor issue.

    What would you do?

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    I think before the baby is crawling is perfectly reasonable. If it's not done by then I would be raising the issue of it being unsafe.
    I'm interested to see what others say...
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    Default What would you do? Unfenced pool

    I just wouldn't leave the child without yourself being there I guess and pray that the fence gets put up soon.

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    I would mention it again before bubs is born...but stop going there once bubs is mobile if they don't do it

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    unfenced pools are illegal. It MUST be done, or they can be faced with fines.

    Following are some nation-wide pool fencing requirements. As always, if you are unsure of anything, simply speak to your pool building professional or the local council for advice that is relevant to your situation.

    Fencing Requirements and Regulations

    * fences and gates must be at least 1.2 metres tall
    * chain wire or mesh fences must be at least 1.8 metres tall with an additional angled section of 45 centimetres
    * the area between the bottom of the fence and the ground must be no more than 100 millimetres
    * any spaces between the vertical members of the fence (palings etc) must be no more than 100 millimetres
    * gates must only open outwards and it needs to close and latch automatically
    * the gate latch must be situated 1.5 metres from the ground or at 1.2 metres if the latch is reached over the fence
    * walls as part of the fence is allowable providing that doors and windows have self locking or latching devices at least 1.5 metres above floor level
    * paling fences are an acceptable part of the overall pool fence if it is at least 1.5 metres in height and any gates within the paling fence have self locking or latching devices also at least 1.5 metres above ground level
    * any material can be used for fencing as long as it is durable and has a reasonable life span when exposed to pool chemicals, water and weather conditions
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    As soon as bubs is rolling over or anything other than being held. I wouldn't ever go to their house until it is up. Its too dangerous, anything can happen and why would you take risks? Your child, your rules

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    I personally would be reporting it, but I'm a ***** like that.

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    Default What would you do? Unfenced pool

    Hmmm I thought it was actually illegal to not have adequate pool fencing?
    I'd be supervising 100% of the time or telling them you aren't comfortable having a mobile baby around an unfenced pool.
    If they get huffy then they obviously don't value your LO's safety.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OJandMe View Post
    unfenced pools are illegal. It MUST be done, or they can be faced with fines.
    I thought that only applied to houses with pools built after a certain date? There are other pool protection devices of course a fence would be the best option (no doubt!) I wouldn't leave my mobile child unattended at their house and once walking I just wouldn't go over!

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    report them to the local council. that will resolve the problem!

    I would be anxious as well. My inlaws have a large property with the closest dam about 300m from the house. My son hasn't been there without us yet, but its something that worries me as kids move quickly.

    You may also want to appeal to their pramatic side with this article about a man being charged with manslaughter after a toddler died in his pool which wasnt fenced in accordance with council requirements:

    http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/new...-1226416117615

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