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    Post 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    I would really love some advice from parents that have been through something similar as my DH and I are lost for what to do.

    DD has always slept through the night (7pm-7am) with the exception of illness etc but in the last two weeks this all changed and we now have a child that wakes crying for us at 4am or so every night. She calls out for us and one of us will go and try to settle her but she's agitated and trying to grab for us in a desperate attempt to get out the cot. 3 nights ago we were exhausted and with nothing so far working tried to settle her unsuccessfully so told her to lay down to sleep and left the room in the hope that she would cry a little and settle herself like she used to do. She did not like this very much and for the first time ever climbed out of the cot and ran into our room. After getting over the shock we took the sides off the cot to prevent it happening again and causing injury so now we are dealing with a 4am waker that can simply get out of her bed and have a tantrum if we try to put her back to bed

    We have tried several things like giving in and bringing her into our bed, telling her she will go into the port-a-cot like a baby instead of the big bed and constantly taking her back to her own bed to name a few but as I'm sure you can imagine, doing this with a 2 year old that is stubborn to say the least wants their own way no matter what time of the day (although exactly what she is wanting is anyone's guess as she will not tell us).

    I did a bit of reading online for some possible answers like development, dreams/nightmares and these may be the case as she has been going through a growth and development spurt when this first started.

    I'm sorry for the long rant but I'm tired and on a severe learning curve for this one. I tend to take things like this a bit personal and see it as my own failure especially when it's upsetting the whole house (DH very tired and grumpy and working long hours). DH is wonderful and very helpful but I can't help but feel I need to solve this problem for us all and take ownership.

    I would love your advice and whether this has happened/happening to you and what worked/what didn't

    If you got this far, thank you so much for reading

    From a tired and grumpy Mummy

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    Default 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    Our 2yo wakes up between 3-5am to wee and then is reluctant to sleep again so she comes into bed with us then. Problem solved

    Would that be an option?

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    Default Re: 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    Can you try a groclock? Ive heard people having success with them. I might try one with my 2yo although he gets up at 5am usually, 4am is much worse!

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    sorry i have no help but we went through this and for us it went on for about 6months but now they sleep in until about 6.30 which i'm thankful for. i tried everything bringing into bed (dad leaves at 5.30), telling her she can only get up when its daylight, puting them into bed to go back to sleep everything and nothing works so i just started getting up and being tired all day then one day she started sleeping till 6.30 and has stayed like that for a while so it might be just some kind of stage but i feel your pain that stage sucks

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    Default 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    Unfortunately in the last couple of nights this has gotten worse as now she won't go to sleep in her room at all which is really not like her. We have been really fortunate in that we haven't had any sleeping problems with her so far so we are really unsure what to do. She comes across like she is scared but we just can't work this out

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    Default 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    Quote Originally Posted by bubbella View Post
    Unfortunately in the last couple of nights this has gotten worse as now she won't go to sleep in her room at all which is really not like her. We have been really fortunate in that we haven't had any sleeping problems with her so far so we are really unsure what to do. She comes across like she is scared but we just can't work this out
    If she seems scared can you pop a mattress on the floor of her room and you sleep there after 4am so she has company?

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    Our kids have all started coming into our room around 2.5-3yrs old, I assume it's a developmental thing. They just come in our bed and go back to sleep. At one point i got sick of being squashed so we put a mattress on the floor and said they could have a quick cuddle the had to sleep on the mattress. They grew out of it eventually. Our DS (2.5) sleeps in his own bed in our room but most nights at about 5am will come into our bed. Usually he goes back to sleep but if he comes in at 6-6:30 he doesn't, and just lies in our bed looking at books or playing on my phone while keep sleeping. Would that work?

    Or maybe you could put a mattress in her room and sleep in there til she feels safe again?

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    Default 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    I don't have much experience in this but I feel for you - I can't survive on not much sleep so feel your pain!

    How about a night light (or gro clock) or a lamp turned on low? A new comfort toy? Get her to choose some new bedding? Could someone sleep in her room with her for a few nights? Has she got all her teeth already - maybe she has her back molars pushing through and needs some pain meds.

    I hope it gets sorted soon.

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    Default 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    Does she have a nightlight? Or is she cold? Does she have her last set of molars? Our 2.5 year old wakes up most nights to go to the toilet too and is hard to get back to sleep. Can take over an hour. Great fun when you have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep well either!

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    Default 2 1/2 year old now waking at 4am every night - Some advice please

    My DD started this out if the blue at about 2. She wouldn't do back to sleep without one of us sleeping in her room. I put a nightlight in her room and it seemed to solve the problem!

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