Whilst both birthday celebrations are special, I would be going to the 30th. The baby doesn't have a clue that it's their birthday, but your friend does.
Hope you have a fun day/night with whatever you choose!
I would be going to the close friends 30th. I'd try and get someone to look after the kids too.
Go on your own to 30th and get duh to take kids bday - everyone wins!!
i'd go to the 30th and take the baby on a playdate for a treat to somewhere fun as a treat.
What time are the parties on? I would assume the first birthday would start and finish earlier? Could you turn up for half an hour on your way to your friends party maybe ?
A child isn't going to remember not going to a first birthday party... your BF will never forget.
I'm going to go against the grain here and say I wouldn't go to the 30th. It's a 5 hour round trip and I would assume an overnight stay, at a venue that is unsuitable for children. You wouldn't get to talk to her much anyway as she would be socializing and you would be trying to keep your children entertained!
I think your idea of spending time away with her together is a good one. You will actually get time together, rather than just "party time" where you can't chat all night or you'll be monoplisisng the birthday girl!
My only other thoughts are to ask your DD's friends if she can stay there the night and you and your other kid/s go to the 30th. Or DH stays home with the kids and you go to the 30th alone.
So OP, have you made a decision yet?
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