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    Default BFF 30th Birthday Party or DD2s Friend's 1st Birthday ~ WWYD???

    So, my very best friend, who I've known forever and who I lived with for 5 years before I got married, and who has just come home from being overseas for the past two years, is turning 30 in a couple of weeks. Let's call her K.

    Now K is having her party at the TAB in our home town 2.5 hours away and has invited DH, I and the girls. She has said that children are very welcome but that there will be no entertainment for them (there will be more kids than adults). Also, and this isn't anything I hold against her, but K is single (very much feeling the clock ticking), she would love for us to go...

    BUT...

    DD2 has a little friend, who is 3 week younger than her, and her first birthday party is on the same day. Its about 10 minutes away at their home and obviously very child friendly!


    A few other things to consider: I've had a reflux baby for the last 12 months (seem to have turned a corner, thankfully and can see the light at the end of the tunnell); the following week DH is working in Central Qld and the most important (LOL), that night we have our local Strawberry Festival on (I know first world problem), which is very exciting for us!

    Now, I know that I think I have made up my mind, but I still feel so torn, I don't want to hurt K! I was thinking I could tell K, that I will take her out for the day (and if $$$ allows, away for a night), on another weekend, just the two of us, child free...

    I kind of feel that now we have had children, that it is about them, and we should go to DD2s party.

    Driving 2.5 hours, then chasing children around a pub, at my friend's party is not my idea of fun! LOL... There is no one to baby sit the children if DH and I just went...

    Am I making the right decision? What would you do?

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    Id be getting a babysitter and going to my close friends 30th.

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    I would be going to the friends 30th.
    She sounds like a close friend and I wouldn't pick a little kids party over my Bestfriends 30th. But that's just me.

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    Friend's 30th. A 1st party, to kids, is nothing more than a playdate. They don't understand the fuss.

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    Default BFF 30th Birthday Party or DD2s Friend's 1st Birthday ~ WWYD???

    Id go to the 30th aswell.

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    I'm a terrible friend!

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    Default BFF 30th Birthday Party or DD2s Friend's 1st Birthday ~ WWYD???

    Quote Originally Posted by Lincolns mummy View Post
    Id be getting a babysitter and going to my close friends 30th.
    This!!

    TBH I would be p!ssed if my BFF didn't come to my 30th. It's not just an ordinary birthday and by the sounds of it you haven't seen her much in recent times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babylove81 View Post
    I'm a terrible friend!
    Im sure you are not a terrible friend but I think sometimes it's important to do things for our friends even if it's a little inconvient at the time.
    I think people these days don't take friendships as seriously as they used too.
    I also think it will mean a lot to your friend if you where there for her birthday.
    Friendships are give and take I'm sure she will be at one of your special events in the future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Friend's 30th. A 1st party, to kids, is nothing more than a playdate. They don't understand the fuss.
    This! Definitely go to K's! She will know you're not there, she will remember it forever. The 1yo will have no idea if your DD is there or not, nor will she remember it !

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    Default BFF 30th Birthday Party or DD2s Friend's 1st Birthday ~ WWYD???

    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Friend's 30th. A 1st party, to kids, is nothing more than a playdate. They don't understand the fuss.
    This.

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