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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    I'm just wondering how many kids you decided were enough, and how did you decide? Did other people influence your decision? Or finances? I have 4 children and I don't feel I'm done, but my partner is going to get a vasectomy and I know his main reasons are all outside influences, not purely because he feels done. Just wanted to know if this was a common thing?

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    My youngest is 7 mths and no I'm not done but my husband has decided for us that we wont be having anymore children. He is worried about finances and us coping with more children and their needs. I can see where he is coming from but it is very hard to move past my own feelings of wanting another baby!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummykahla View Post
    I'm just wondering how many kids you decided were enough, and how did you decide? Did other people influence your decision? Or finances? I have 4 children and I don't feel I'm done, but my partner is going to get a vasectomy and I know his main reasons are all outside influences, not purely because he feels done. Just wanted to know if this was a common thing?
    It is very common, we however didn't allow any outside pressure to influence our influence our decision.
    After no 6 we have decided to closed the shop because I had a nightmare pregnancy, birth with my last bub and now I am really feeling my age. The funny thing is the pressure is now on big time to NOT stop. They want me to have another...
    You just can't win.

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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    I know how you feel! He earns well but we don't own a house and his mother keeps getting on our case about making sure we never have any more as it's selfish/we can't afford it/no one should ever have more than 3...dp has already told me he'd have more if we were millionaires. I don't BELIEVE you need to be extremely wealthy to provide a great life to kids. If only dp wasn't so involved in what other people thought!

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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    Lol anewme serious? I'm only 27, and feel too young to be finished my first birth was traumatic but every birth since has been fine. I really wish dp would make his own decisions based on what he wants, not everyone else. He's pressuring me to get my tubes tied too and I just can't do it.

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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    Can I say something without meaning to offend....?
    Just going by your past posts, I really think you should concentrate and keep working on your relationship. I'm not sure another child would be a good thing to be thinking about when there are some issues that you have posted about previously with your partner.
    Have you thought about why you want another baby? Big families are awesome but take so much work and really need two parents working as a team to really enjoy them!
    As I said, I hope this post doesn't offend you but I just think when your youngest is so young you've got plenty of time to be considering another baby when things are better between you and your partner.

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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    Not offended at all fob, I'm not considering another baby just yet, simply saying I don't feel done. Dp and I are currently doing counseling together, turns out a lot of issues between us have a lot to do with his family blaming him for his cousins suicide and him taking his frustration and anger out on me, but we are working on it. I really just wanted to know if other people with large families decided to stop because they felt done, or if they stopped because of outside influences. I'm not ignorant to what it takes to raise children, or the hard work it can be. I come from a "broken" home and am aware of the impact on both parents AND children and if I didn't have faith in my abilities or my relationship, I wouldn't bring more children into it.

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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    That's awesome that you are doing counselling. What a great step forward. Sounds really positive.

    I'm pregnant with #4 and I am definitely diddly diddly done!
    I now know the feeling people talk about and I haven't even had the baby yet!
    We could probably afford more but mentally and emotionally I would never ever cope with more than 4!

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    Default Parents with 4 or more kids, are you done?

    I'm still chasing that feeling lol but I'm afraid it will never come! Congrats on number 4 I have always had this strong feeling that I'd have twins, but alas I have not had twins haha. If you didn't get the feeling of being finished, would you go again?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummykahla View Post
    I'm still chasing that feeling lol but I'm afraid it will never come! Congrats on number 4 I have always had this strong feeling that I'd have twins, but alas I have not had twins haha. If you didn't get the feeling of being finished, would you go again?
    I felt like you do until i fell pregnant with ds3 (no6). I was so shocked that i felt done. My hubby nearly fell of his chair when i told him. We both just knew that was it. No more for us.


 

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