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    Default Re: Telling your boss about your Ivf journey

    I told my direct boss but we have a really good working relationship and I knew she would be supportive. I have kept it very quiet to her only as I was also concerned about the impact it would have on my ongoing career. I dont know if this will work so I have continued to seek promotions.
    On a contract under qld govvie conditions I would probably be very wary too. I would go for female medical issues that will require some day surgery at some point with appointments to prep and follow up. Agree get medical certs without clinic details

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    I have a lovely boss who is extremely understanding about everything but I still didn't tell. I just didn't want to feel like I was being treated differently because of it (not that she would but i tend to read into things!!).

    Interestingly when I did get my sticky BFP and got fatter and fatter while loving life and what was ahead, generally floating on cloud 9, she pulled me aside and suggested that maybe I could be a bit less happy (or more subtle or something like that) as she knew one of her other direct reports was having trouble conceiving and that my preggo high could be making things harder for this girl!!!

    In that moment I felt like very calmly explaining every poke prod and procedure I had to go through to get that fat belly - but instead bit my tongue. She thought falling preg was a walk in the park for us!! At least she was v sympathetic to the other girl.

    I didn't have any problem with time off and managed to fit most stuff in around work. I actually had Acupuncture then ET in the v early morning and then went directly to a prospect client site by 9am where I met all our global heads to pitch for a massive deal. In with the client all morning getting a grilling then raced at lunchtime back for my post ET acupuncture!! Not as relaxing as it should be but DS proves that it didn't cause any problems.

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    At the time I started needing to take time off, I had a male boss who was a bit of a chauvinist (sp??) and I didn't want to tell him the reason behind it.

    So, I simply told him that I needed medical time off for 'womens issues' and that I would have medical certificates covering the leave. He went bright red, and muttered, 'take all the time you need' and I never heard another word from him about it again !

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Thanks a lot everyone! I will have more of a think about it but I probably won't tell her as I'm not sure how she will take it. I will definitely get the medical certificates & thanks for the tips about not having the clinic letterhead on it - to be honest I wouldn't have even thought about that until afterwards, so that was useful!!



    Yeh, that's why I'm not keen on telling them, especially because I am on a contract which has now gone to three-monthly (thanks Mr Newman ) so I probably won't get much, if any, maternaty leave and will most likely just not have my contract extended. So basically when I get pregnant I will more than likely be leaving & they will have to find someone to replace me.
    Hi Heartsringz - i too am beginning to wonder how i am going to keep my IVF under the radar and my boss is heading overseas for work just after my proposed egg collection so its vital i'm at work to prepare! argh - awesome responses about the medical cert and no letterhead, its a question i had been meaning to ask my nurse about if i could even get a medical cert for my day off.

    And i was a casualty of the newman government in June! So know how it feels to be on contract - back then it was mth to mth and then 2 weeks notice your gone baby! We had to put off our IVF plans until i found new work.

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    This is difficult. I did a couple of cycles while working but since we weren't having success I felt I really need to devote more rest time after EPU to heal and after ET which makes it difficult while working. Since it was too important for us not to tell anyone about IVF the only choice I had was to leave my job. I couldn't keep taking time off, the lies were too stressful and I didn't know if and when it would work.
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    Thanks a lot ladies!! I have decided to just say it is female issues at this stage and if we have to have subsequent cycles and it becomes a problem taking the time I will consider telling them then.

    Just another quick question - if you all had a medical cert for the time you had off, what kind of leave did you apply for to begin with? ie, I was thinking that I would have to use my rec leave as I didn't think you could use sick leave for a pre-planned medical appointment etc, but if I have a medical certificate I'm not sure what happens then - whether I will have to reverse my rec leave & take it as sick leave instead??

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    I have been taking sick leave for all my tests and appointments. I haven't hit the hormone treatments yet, or egg pickups etc, that's still to come.
    I've also only been in my job for just on a year now. So I was wary of telling. But I did. I told my boss because I had to take a half dozen half days because I needed to see the fs and the counsellor and have blood tests and ultrasounds, etc and it was just too many days in a bunch (like one a week for about 6 weeks) to not offer some explanation. I told my boss and his response was 'sorry you have to go through that. Take whatever time you need'. I then told my supervisor (who I've since been promoted to his directly) and he asked if there was anything he could do, and then said I wasn't allowed to run off and have babies and leave him. He meant it in a loving way so I didn't mind. And as I told both bosses, yes I am going through I've and that is why I am taking time off, but it's going to be a few months before I get pregnant and then 9 months of being fat before I go on leave so they're still going to get a year out of me :-) and the second boss now checks in with me after I have time off to make sure I'm okay. When I had a little scare with my thyroid he try's to convince me to take more time off. Even though it would have sucked to be him without an assistant.
    So in conclusion I have found it a good thing to tell but I have a very supportive workplace.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Just another quick question - if you all had a medical cert for the time you had off, what kind of leave did you apply for to begin with? ie, I was thinking that I would have to use my rec leave as I didn't think you could use sick leave for a pre-planned medical appointment
    What would you do if you were told as part of a routine check up that your appendix was so inflamed it had to come out, even though you didn't feel sick. This would involve specialist appts, tests, pre surgical visits, time off for the op and recovery time. You would take this as medical leave (although I think nowadays it all comes under personal leave).

    Same same for IVF.

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    Default Re: Telling your boss about your Ivf journey

    I told my boss. I work as a nurse, on a roster. I needed help with shift changes at the last minute. The clinic opened at 0730 for bloods etc and i started work at 0700. I decided to let her know so that I could explain why the short notice etc, but i knewshe would understand. I was able to call her after i received my blood results and swap to afternoon shift the next day so that i could get bloods done again the next day.

    She asked me what leave i wanted to use, i used sick leave up pretty quickly!

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