Do you think that if you planned to have children in your life your lifestyle is different to those who didnt plan on having children but ended up having them by accident?
Lets see if I can explain my question....
My friend had a child to a one night stand, she didnt want kids but she kept it and now has a 5 year old who she adores. She has her bad times where she just doesnt know what she is doing in life because she didnt plan for this.
She just got back from a girls trip to Bali and is now wanting to plan another trip someone else. She wants me to go but frankly I dont plan on going on any trip without my kids.
Dont get me wrong, I will have a weekend away with me and DP but I would much prefere family holidays etc.
So do you think people who didnt 'want' kids are different to ones that did? As in, would it be because she never planned a life with children, she just doesnt have that family type feeling as she wants to do things as a family? Or is it just a personal thing? She wants girly time and all that?
For me, I am a family type person. Weddings, parties, holidays. I want family there, even screaming babies and naughty toddlers.
Just want thoughts. Not judging. Just wondering if it is the norm for unexpected pregnancies.