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    Default My progress with comforter sucker and pat and shush

    So I posted in another thread and instead of taking over someone else's thread I thought I'd start my own.
    My 7month old DS is a comfort sucker as I BF and he can't yet self settle, he wakes every 2 hours at the start of the night then more frequently towards the end of the night and sometimes I end up sleeping with him on me all night and him using me as a dummy because he freaks everytime I try to put him down.

    So after talking with DH and we decided to use the method of a kind person that shared with me her method of success in this situation and I also read a bit on the internet about certain techniques e.g baby bliss and shush pat and pu/pd.

    I've never tried shushing and patting with him before really, I've shushed him for a minute or two but it's never worked.

    So last night we put him to bed at 6.15 as he was tired. Usually he would have a nap in his swing chair while we had dinner then go to bed 45 minutes later when he woke up. Or sometimes he has a nap earlier or misses this nap completely and is ready for bed at 7.30.

    So last night I bounced him a little for 10 minutes while DH put DS's cot back together as it was sidecared next to me and now its not.
    After the bouncing DS was sleepy and closing his eyes so I put him in the cot and DH held his arm's down (so it felt like he was being hugged) and I put my hand on his head and patted him on the chest and shushed and sang soft kitty, which he likes, then i slowly stopped singing and shushing and just kept patting.
    SO HE WENT TO SLEEP IN HIS COT! It took about 10 minutes of shush and patting but it worked! I was amazed!

    He woke up 45 minutes later at 7.30 so we did the same thing, after a quick feed and he went back to sleep again.

    Then he woke up at 9, 11, 1.30, 3.15 then he wouldnt sleep again till about 5am when DH bounced him to sleep in the end as I tried and he just wanted boob. We tried shush pat first though for a long time but wasnt working.
    then he woke again at 5.45 and I was so tired and I hadnt fed him since 3.15 so I gave him a quick feed and I was freezing so sat back on teh bed....and fell asleep
    He woke again at 7.15.

    So I'm going to try him sleeping in his cot during the day and shush pat again all day today and see how I go with that. I might try wrapping him too as I dont have enough hands to hold his arms and pat and rub his head.

    Any comments or tips or similar stories for me please fire away
    I so hope this works! (and I can keep it up, I cave really easily when it comes to him crying and wanting me!)

    Also I forgot to mention that he's only slept in his cot about twice during the day when he was a newborn as otherwise he's slept in his swing chair or bouncer, or pram or the car seat, or on me as he woke up everytime I put him down! So its no wonder he's confused and wakes up scared in his cot as he has no idea he's supposed to sleep there as we only put him there after he's asleep at night time. Makes sense really!
    Sounds really bad now I write this but I really had no idea what to do and noone to ask or give me advice on it!

    p.s thanks for reading my essay!
    Last edited by Luvmydogs; 28-08-2012 at 09:16. Reason: added details

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    Default My progress with comforter sucker and pat and shush

    Hi there,

    Just wanted to let you know that I am in exactly the same boat with 6 month old DD. She sleeps with me at the moment (DH is in another room) and has done so since we brought her home. I too am breastfeeding and DD has come to rely on the boob to get her through sleep cycles. This wouldnt bother me so much but I'm starting to get really sleep deprived from the constant night warnings even though we do sleep together!

    She thankfully will nap by herself (I usually boob her down) but will only do 45min naps so am going to try to extend and consolidate her naps too.

    I am deadset against CC and CIO and will not let her cry under any circumstances. I have just read the No Cry Sleep Solution which is such a great book. Its comforting and has some great ideas on how to deal with the issues we are facing. Last night I made a log of the night wakings and tried to implement some of the tools (for example, not giving the boob everyone she stirred but instead saying ssshhh and rubbing her back). Today I am introducing a nap routine (story book and nappy change), sleep keywords ("it's bedtime now") and a lovey.

    For transitioning to the cot the book recommends spending a few times a day having playtime and cuddles in the cot with your baby so they start to associate happy feelings towards the cot.

    Have you read the book?

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    Hey No i havent read this book but I've heard of it and I want to get it!
    I can't keep going on like this, something has to give.

    Last night he spent the entire night sleeping ON me except for a few brief sleeps in his cot up to about 10.

    After we started trying the patting shushing I think he realised what we were trying to do and he wouldnt have a bar of it. Everytime I tried it myself he just screamed and screamed! So eventually I gave up and we're back to the same old same old.

    I had no idea before we had him that any of this might happen. I just figured babies just went to sleep. I wish I'd been better informed so I could have started something earlier and taught him to sleep earlier.

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    Default My progress with comforter sucker and pat and shush

    Not every baby likes shushing and patting, mine doesnt. Dont give up, keep trying and hopefully you will find what your bub likes soon. A few things you may want to try: pat back/bum/mattress, rub head/belly, stroke cheek/side of head, bounce on a fitness ball to calm before putting down, 1 hand on chest 1 hand on nappy then rock his body left and right (this one worked for me when he was younger), warm the mattress before putting bub down, swaddle... Even feed lying down side by side so you can have some rest, make sure boobs dont cover bubs face.

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    Default My progress with comforter sucker and pat and shush

    Quote Originally Posted by Luvmydogs View Post

    I had no idea before we had him that any of this might happen. I just figured babies just went to sleep. I wish I'd been better informed so I could have started something earlier and taught him to sleep earlier.
    OMG, I was totally the same!! I had NO idea that there would be any issues, it was such a shock when we brought DS home and he didn't just go to sleep like we do. LOL!!!

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    Default Re: My progress with comforter sucker and pat and shush

    Quote Originally Posted by lovesushi View Post
    Not every baby likes shushing and patting, mine doesnt. Dont give up, keep trying and hopefully you will find what your bub likes soon. A few things you may want to try: pat back/bum/mattress, rub head/belly, stroke cheek/side of head, bounce on a fitness ball to calm before putting down, 1 hand on chest 1 hand on nappy then rock his body left and right (this one worked for me when he was younger), warm the mattress before putting bub down, swaddle... Even feed lying down side by side so you can have some rest, make sure boobs dont cover bubs face.
    Good luck with the new regime, OP! Just wanted to send you some encouragement, we used the babybliss method with huge success. You just need to persevere as best you can. But as lovesushi said, it's sometimes about finding your baby's favourite method of rockibg/patting. My DS won't gave a bar of patting, but he likes being bounced in bed, one hand on his bum the other at the top of his back.
    It may feel like one step forwards two steps back sometimes but you will get there in the end

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    Default good luck!

    I was having similar issues with my DD and found that the only way to get a solid night of sleep was to teach her to self settle. I couldn't bear to let her cry in a room on her own but I persevered with more gentle techniques that have worked. There was, however, much crying. I guess I just had to accept that she needed to let out her frustrations during the process - it's change, it's unfamiliar, and you're asking them to do something new which is daunting and takes practice. Now, she self-settles at 7pm (sometimes with a few minutes of grizzling) and sleeps to 7am, with one wake to feed and she's back asleep before I even leave the room.

    What I did at every sleep and nap was put her in the swaddle (we started this when she was 5 months), give her a cuddle and read a story, then a cuddle and lullaby while rocking her, then I'd tell her it was time for a sleep/nap, that the angels loved her and would keep her safe while she sleeps. I told her I loved her then put her in her cot. The crying would start when I tucked her in. I then made the shhhh noise and jiggled her cot from side to side (awkward, but she likes movement). I did this until she fell asleep and didn't leave the room until she was. It was the hardest thing not to pick her up and bring her to bed, and at first it would take her over an hour, and there was crying, but I could see she was safe, fed, warm, and I was there. It was just change, and not familiar for her so I imagine it was a bit scary.

    I did this consistently over a number of weeks, gradually reducing how much I rocked the cot, then stopping the shhing, then the rocking altogether and I just stayed with her. When she was down to falling asleep within five minutes, I just put her down and left the room because I could deal with that. Now, she will sometimes grizzle, not cry, for a few minutes, but she sleeps all night (with one feed)! No more waking, bouncing, walking, feeding and sleeplessness. It was hard, but so so worth it. I'm more rested, DD is more rested, our whole house just functions so much better. So I guess whatever you do, be persistent. Stick with it. It's hard, but you'll never look back

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    Default My progress with comforter sucker and pat and shush

    Great to read. Thanks for sharing


 

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