So I posted in another thread and instead of taking over someone else's thread I thought I'd start my own.
My 7month old DS is a comfort sucker as I BF and he can't yet self settle, he wakes every 2 hours at the start of the night then more frequently towards the end of the night and sometimes I end up sleeping with him on me all night and him using me as a dummy because he freaks everytime I try to put him down.
So after talking with DH and we decided to use the method of a kind person that shared with me her method of success in this situation and I also read a bit on the internet about certain techniques e.g baby bliss and shush pat and pu/pd.
I've never tried shushing and patting with him before really, I've shushed him for a minute or two but it's never worked.
So last night we put him to bed at 6.15 as he was tired. Usually he would have a nap in his swing chair while we had dinner then go to bed 45 minutes later when he woke up. Or sometimes he has a nap earlier or misses this nap completely and is ready for bed at 7.30.
So last night I bounced him a little for 10 minutes while DH put DS's cot back together as it was sidecared next to me and now its not.
After the bouncing DS was sleepy and closing his eyes so I put him in the cot and DH held his arm's down (so it felt like he was being hugged) and I put my hand on his head and patted him on the chest and shushed and sang soft kitty, which he likes, then i slowly stopped singing and shushing and just kept patting.
SO HE WENT TO SLEEP IN HIS COT! It took about 10 minutes of shush and patting but it worked! I was amazed!
He woke up 45 minutes later at 7.30 so we did the same thing, after a quick feed and he went back to sleep again.
Then he woke up at 9, 11, 1.30, 3.15 then he wouldnt sleep again till about 5am when DH bounced him to sleep in the end as I tried and he just wanted boob. We tried shush pat first though for a long time but wasnt working.
then he woke again at 5.45 and I was so tired and I hadnt fed him since 3.15 so I gave him a quick feed and I was freezing so sat back on teh bed....and fell asleep
He woke again at 7.15.
So I'm going to try him sleeping in his cot during the day and shush pat again all day today and see how I go with that. I might try wrapping him too as I dont have enough hands to hold his arms and pat and rub his head.
Any comments or tips or similar stories for me please fire away
I so hope this works! (and I can keep it up, I cave really easily when it comes to him crying and wanting me!)
Also I forgot to mention that he's only slept in his cot about twice during the day when he was a newborn as otherwise he's slept in his swing chair or bouncer, or pram or the car seat, or on me as he woke up everytime I put him down! So its no wonder he's confused and wakes up scared in his cot as he has no idea he's supposed to sleep there as we only put him there after he's asleep at night time. Makes sense really!
Sounds really bad now I write this but I really had no idea what to do and noone to ask or give me advice on it!
p.s thanks for reading my essay!