Wishing you all the best whiteswan. Just thought I'd let you know you r not alone, I am being slowly pushed out with bad reviews and being over worked. Before maternity leave I was the poster employee with great reviews and given lots of opportunity. Stay strong and believe in yourself this business has not treated you correctly and if you feel brave enough contact the fair work people. They really want cases to make their point.
Whiteswan, just wanted to send out some cyber hugs.
What your employer is doing is not legal and completely wrong. Please give a call to the numbers previously listed. They will help you out.
Please try and remember that this does NOT reflect on how much you are worth as a person. I understand it must be an incredibly difficult position to be in but you have shown that you are a great employee and they don't deserve you. At all.
Stay strong and good luck xx
I just read through all of this
I can't offer any more advise than what other have already given but please do use it.
My Dh was having huge problems with his team leader and manager.
Mainly due to his age (Dh is 22)
They were older and made many comments that he shouldn't be in the work he is because he to young, his team leader said to him one day "Your so young it makes me physically sick"
They would also treat him like a child, the manager made him a star chart to put stickers on when he had completed everyday tasks and it was taped to the front of his desk
Every one in the department laughed about it, started buying him Lollie pops etc, it was bullying.
My husband is a very happy person and what I seen him go through during those 6 months was horrible.
He woke me one night having difficulty breathing and chest pains which landed him in the ER, his blood pressure was through the roof and he was having a panic attack.
During this time he also lost 15kgs of weight that really didn't need to be lost, he looked so sick and exhausted.
Everyone in his department would also leave right at 5pm, dump their work on Dh and he was doing up to 4 hours of unpaid over time daily.
He ended up having to go to counseling, during that time his counselor gave him the right information and who to go, who to call etc.
Dh was in a costumer service roll at the company (he has higher qualifications) and after Dh stood up for himself, went to HR called fair work etc the manager and team leader received written warnings, the manager was De-moted as apparently this wasn't the first time something like this had happened and the state manager of the company had many meetings with Dh about what could be done to make Dh happier in the work place.
It's now been 6months since all that happened and Dh was put into a higher position to account for his qualifications, he is now an account manager, he doesn't have to deal at all with the people who were bullying him and he received a very nice pay rise.
He has some great friends in the office now, he knows some people still talk behind his back but because Dh took it seriously and went further none of them have ever said anything to his face and the bullying behavior has stopped.
It was extremely stressful for him, and for me too as I wasn't working, we were stressed that if he took it further he would loose his job etc.
We have been together for 4 years and I have never seen him like that, it was horrible for me to see him like that.
It all payed off in the end, Dh is so much more happier, his blood pressure is back to normal, no signs of depression or stress.
I know it's not the same as what your going through, it's completely different, just thought I would share and tell you that if you do go further it will be stressful but it will pay off in the end.
What your employer is doing is illegal, and until he is pulled up on it he will continue to do it, it doesn't matter if it's a small business, it's a business non the less.
Sending you many hugs.
Thank you everyone, I am going to get some legal advice, I will be making an appointment in the morning.
Any update? Been thinking of you!
Wow I just read this entire thread. I really really hope you do something to stand up for yourself as this is absolutely shocking. You poor thing! I've had to work for bully boss before and its not nice at all, I moved on thankfully to a much better position. I have degree's and was basically demoted to receptionist on front desk when new arrogant chauvanist boss came who was similar to your boss. There's no talking to them on a level field as they think they're better and can do what they like.
Please stand up for yourself! Goodluck
p.s I also can't believe this other womans behaviour!!
Just wanted to say good luck, it's terrible what they're doing to you!! It's completely wrong on so many levels and the company needs to be held accountable.
I hope you get help from one of the organizations mentioned in this thread - it's so hard to fight these things on your own so you really need someone to be your advocate.
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