Im new here, ive been doing my research online about Surrogacy and it led me to this wonderful site.
I guess I should maybe tell you a bit about my story so you can understand why Surrogacy is my only hope to have children.
Im 35 and my hubby is 30..2 years ago My husband and I were overjoyed to find out I was pregnant. It was at 7 wks into that we discovered it was YET another ectopic pregnancy(where the pregnancy implants in the tubes) and I say this because it was my 6th ectopic pregnancy. Because Ectopics are so dangerous and Id had 6 of them already, I decided ok enough is enough and decided to have my tubes removed and do IVF instead because Getting pregnant naturally just wasnt happening, they kept implanting in the tubes. The doctors thought if we could bypass the tubes by doing IVF I could have a successful pregnancy. So that was my plan!
So I went into hospital to have the ectopic and my tubes removed. It was then in that operation everything went horribly wrong. It was during that operation that I developed a blood clot and a week after the operation, on my first day back at work, the blood clot had travelled to my heart and I had a Heart attack. I was very lucky it was very minor and I recovered from the Heart attack very quickly apparently because I was young, fit & healthy, I was let out 2 days later. A week later I was feeling back on top of the world , so my husband and I went out for dinner to get me out of the house, But walking back to the car to go home I suddenly collapsed from a cardiac arrest. I died for 8 minutes, but was revived, but then in a coma for 3 days they say im only alive because of my husbands quick thinking and the CPR he administered. Im REALLY lucky to be here, apparently only 5% survive what I did.
Anyway 2 years on from that now Im pretty fit and healthy. I will daily have to have medication and now have a pacemaker/defibrillator implanted, just in case anything nasty ever happens again.
So now it comes to my dilemma, My husband is my world and we would love to have children. BUT apparently after all that happened my heart has weakened and they say it would be dangerous for me to carry children and not to mention all the medication I take it would not be healthy to the child. We meet the surrogacy guidelines in Australia and desperate to have children its our dream. So I Just need help on what to do next? Where should I be looking and what should I be doing to find that special someone who can make our dream a reality? Thanks all for listening to my long, long story xx