I have a 9 yr old DD.
She is slowly showing signs of going through puberty.
Her breasts are slowly developing so I bought her those bonds training bras, you know the ones that look like crop tops just in plain white. She doesn't wear them all the time, not under her school uniform just if she is feeling uncomfortable with what she is wearing as in if the top or dress is a light fabric etc.
I have told her its up to her when she wears them.
A few night ago she told me she is getting pain and she pointed to where (it was around the ovaries area) I have already explained to her about periods and how normal it is etc. Also about pads and tampons etc.
Lately she has been having tantrums, afterwards she always comes to me and apologies, when I ask her why she is like that she says she doesn't know she just gets angry over little things and cant control it. I'm thinking maybe hormones?
Anyway to be perfectly honest I'm a bit scared.
I want my DD to come to me with everything I want her to be comfortable to talk to me about her body but she seems so shy sometimes almost like she thinks it is wrong to ask me questions. I don't know why?
I have always been honest and open with her, I have never been upset no matter what she asks me. I have explained to her about se.x (obviously in an age appropriate way) to which she responded with it being gross along with boys.
Anyway I guess I'm just looking for people who have been in a similar situation or who can give me a few pointers.
I really want to be close to my DD, I want to have a good open relationship with her. I don't want her to be scared and sometimes she seems like she is.
She knows she will get hair soon but she told me she doesn't want to get it and she almost seemed mad that she will.
Any advice on how to best handle puberty in a girl?