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    Default Party invites where u pay

    I think it depends in your back ground a bit too regarding what's normal or not. I would always assume I had to pay my own way and then would be pleasantly surprised when my meal was paid for.

    I find it more normal for my European friends to pay, and for the Aussies to expect for you to pay your own way.

    Nothing wrong with either IMO.

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    I think it's rude when people assume others should pay for them to attend a celebration.

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    Default Party invites where u pay

    Every time I go to a restaurant for someone's birthday, everyone pays for their own meal and my friends and I chip in so the birthday girl/boy doesn't pay.

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    Default Re: Party invites where u pay

    I agree it must be a background thing. Its just how i was brought up to pay for others if im hosting a party... At my house or out either way im throwing the celebration.

    I just thought people should let u know how much u have to pay to attend . This isn't a order what u like thing its set.. Im not saying i will go order the seafood and expect her to pay.. Its set

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    Quote Originally Posted by London View Post
    My friend had her birthday at a restaurant every year for about 3years and not once did she say we had to pay, but we all kind of assumed that was the go. I guess its just kind of assumed that you pay for your own meal.
    Yeh I'm a bit the same. I had DHs birthday at the rockpool but I didn't tell anyone to pay everyone just assumed. Glad they didn't expect me to pay coz it's a very expensive restaurant! 😜

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    Default Party invites where u pay

    Yeah if it's just a birthday (formal invite or not) I would assume I have to pay for my way.

    Weddings, formal Events or at their house I would assume I do not have to pay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bezzy View Post
    I think if it was an official type invite, like a paper one in the mail, I would expect my meal would be included, but if it was maybe a text message invite then I would expect to pay for my own meal as I would assume its friends and family getting together to celebrate vs the person throwing a party kinda thing.
    Exactly what I think! I think it's ok to write on an official invite pay for own meal instead of presents or something, but with no heads up I would be a bit miffed!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kim85 View Post
    This isn't a order what u like thing its set.. Im not saying i will go order the seafood and expect her to pay.. Its set
    Ah that's a bit different then. If it's a set menu then yes she should have given you a price on the invitation (ie. $35 pp etc). just so that you know what you're up for in advance.

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    Default Party invites where u pay

    I just had DHs 40th at a restaurant, i wasnt sure how to word the invite so i said restaurant is Byo but please dont as i have ordered DHs fav wine and the meal will be a banquet.. ( it was at a local indian) i didnt want to say outright im paying.. Most people tried to give money to pay at the end but i just said no its fine, all sorted.
    If i wanted them to pay i would have said its byo and the banquet costs $40 per head..
    I would always assume i had to pay and decline the invite if i couldnt afford it.

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    If I'm invited to a restaurant I expect to pay...I thought everyone did this?

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