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    I got an invite to a party next weekend. Thing is the invite just said u are invited to this restaurant for my birthday at time and date rsvp.
    So i did but now a friend has said she thinks we have to pay. I think not as the invite didn't state it will cost this much.
    If they inviting person wants us to pay shouldn't they be up front not spring it on us during the party?

    I think its so rude. I have nothing against paying my way at all just want to be told before hand not rock up and she say now that's 30bux thanks. Rude.

    Its happened to my mum the payment being sprung on them at the end. Soooo rude imo

    Has anyone ever done this? Why? Why wouldn't u just be upfront with the invite? Afraid people will say no cuz they have to pay?

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    My friend had her birthday at a restaurant every year for about 3years and not once did she say we had to pay, but we all kind of assumed that was the go. I guess its just kind of assumed that you pay for your own meal.

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    I think you should probably presume that you will need to pay for your own meals, but I agree, that it would be best for the friend to inform people of the specifics.

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    I have invited people to a restaurant for my birthday before and they had to pay. I didn't send out invites more just a group text saying 'hey we are going here for mybirthday on Friday night let me know if you guys wanna come along'. I never thought I needed to tell people they were paying, I just thought that was implied because we were just meeting at a restaurant.

    So obviously since I have done it, I don't think its rude... I would never expect my friend to pay for my dinner if I was going out for dinner for her birthday, I would be more inclined to pay for hers iykwim...

    Unless an invite said 'free beer wine and nibblies' or something like that I would always assume that I had to take or buy my own drinks and meal.

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    Default Re: Party invites where u pay

    Yeh now that my friend suggested we probably have to pay im going prepared but before that i had no idea.
    When i invite people somewhere for a meal for mh birthday i pay. If i can't afford it at the time i say to come for the party but will cost x amount. If i don't say anything on the invite then they don't pay which is why im a bit taken back. Just not the way i was brought up to do invites

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    Default Party invites where u pay

    I think if it was an official type invite, like a paper one in the mail, I would expect my meal would be included, but if it was maybe a text message invite then I would expect to pay for my own meal as I would assume its friends and family getting together to celebrate vs the person throwing a party kinda thing.

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    Default Re: Party invites where u pay

    Yep it was an official one not just a get together text. I spose just a get together text i would assume im paying too. This is just a formal invite for a formal place she made a booking for.

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    I just always assume that if someone is inviting me to a restaurant, that I have to pay for my own meal. I mean, it's their birthday. Why would you expect them to fork out for everyone's meals iykwim.

    Every time I've gone to a restaurant for a birthday meal etc, I've always paid for myself as have the other guests. I just thought it was the 'done' thing.

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    Default Re: Party invites where u pay

    Maybe its just me then i always pay if i invite otherwise i will say how much it will cost before they have to rsvp

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    I just assume that a restaurant birthday celebration means you pay your own way. I don't think it's rude.

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