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    Nowhere is she had been asked by pead during a autism diagnosement that would ok.
    But if your taken a child to ER for a ear/throat/chest infection type thing it is highly inappropriate. IYKIM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bumMum View Post
    But wouldn't she have discussed those possibilities with other professionals previously? Like when she got a diagnosis or something? I'm not really sure of exactly how these things work but it doesn't sound quite right to just come out and ask like that..

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    Drs are still expected to get a full history in the ED, if they dont know the patient as its not always posible to get the buff notes up and get it from there some kids have dozens of files so they do ask there parents for history.
    IM not saying it wasnt a mean way to say it but unfortunately sometimes in these situations you gota put on your thick skin and let things roll off.

    Anything that is said or asked in the ED i tend to justright it of as they are in a stressfull situation and so are you they need t get a history and dont often work it the best way.

    Im not saying the OP shouldnt be peed of at them but just to try not to read to much into it.

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    IM not saying it wasnt a mean way to say it but unfortunately sometimes in these situations you gota put on your thick skin and let things roll off.

    Anything that is said or asked in the ED i tend to justright it of as they are in a stressfull situation and so are you they need t get a history and dont often work it the best way.
    But if every patient just shrugged off insensitive comments/questions like that then it becomes acceptable practice.

    Highly unprofessional, I'd be very upset and would definitely complain. No relevance to the situation whatsoever.

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    Bumum, thats exactly it, i wasnt asking this dr to diagnose my son's disabilities, my lil man was there because he had stopped eating for 5 days and was on day two of no liquids. I dont see how whether or not i drank during my pregnancy (well really she was saying did i drink for both of my pregnancies since both of them have autism) was going to help dx his infected lymph gland? She seemed surprised ihad two on the spectrum and decided to vocalise her train of thought to figure put why this is so, she wasnt filling out a chart or taking notes, this question along with the one about us seeing an occupational therapist was one purely to satisfy her own curiosity.


    I have indeed been asked those questions before; during the dx of both of my boys disabilities. It has been asked in a respectful manner, not the way i was asked this time, especially when it was so irrelevent to anything.

    I can appreciate where you are coming from nowhere, i do understand that these things do need to be asked and discussed in certain circumstances. But i just dont think this was one of them.

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    [QUOTE=MrsOhara;6792319]But if every patient just shrugged off insensitive comments/questions like that then it becomes acceptable practice.

    Highly unprofessional, I'd be very upset and would definitely complain. No relevance to the situation whatsoever.[/QUOT

    Ok im obviously wrong just in the last 6 years of dealing with ED i have always been under the impression that they need to get a full history in the ED as anything can be relivant, its not a case really of brushing it of but to me i see it as them trying to get the history the fastest most effective way possible.

    I wasnt trying to be mean to the OP or insensertive just a differnt way of looking at it and not to take it personally as it likely wasnt meant in that way. Hard questions are asked in the ED and they are not generaly meant as an attack or accusation, even when they can feel that way.

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    Default ED dr implied i caused my children's disabilities!

    Quote Originally Posted by Nowhere View Post
    Drs are still expected to get a full history in the ED, if they dont know the patient as its not always posible to get the buff notes up and get it from there some kids have dozens of files so they do ask there parents for history.
    IM not saying it wasnt a mean way to say it but unfortunately sometimes in these situations you gota put on your thick skin and let things roll off.

    Anything that is said or asked in the ED i tend to justright it of as they are in a stressfull situation and so are you they need t get a history and dont often work it the best way.

    Im not saying the OP shouldnt be peed of at them but just to try not to read to much into it.
    Agree ... It was mean ... But just because they are doctors doesn't mean they ate good with people ... I would prefer an abrupt, to the point doc who is a brilliant diagnostician instead of a touchy feely wishy washy doc.

    Drs in the Ed especially don't have time they need info.

    Op - how was the treatment of your child??? Did they get good care?

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    Anyway i dont want to argue, i dont think when im in that situation that i need to have a thick skin, drs are meant to be professionals. We were in the paediatric unit of the ED, they were aware that he had already had multiple meltdowns in the waiting room, he had bursted blood vessels in his eyes from being so distressed... Questioning me on my pregnancies 8 and 3.5 yrs ago was not going to help my son.

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    i think the 2 comments to me are separate.

    Asking if there were any other health issues is fine (abrupt and to the point but no issue).

    Asking the OP if she drank during her pregnancies to imply that drinking causes autism...totally out of line and is worthy of a complaint.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smartiecat View Post
    Agree ... It was mean ... But just because they are doctors doesn't mean they ate good with people ... I would prefer an abrupt, to the point doc who is a brilliant diagnostician instead of a touchy feely wishy washy doc.

    Drs in the Ed especially don't have time they need info.

    Op - how was the treatment of your child??? Did they get good care?
    They sent us home with oral anti bitotics despite being told that he will not ingest them. They told my husband to pry my childs mouth open with his fingers in order to get them in. We did that, and my husband has multiple bloody wounds pn his fingers now. My son is still not eating and has had a few mouthfuls of liquids. Do i think we recieved good care?

    No.

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    Default Re: ED dr implied i caused my children's disabilities!

    DE my face was seriously like this when I read your OP > I'm glad you are speaking up, that's not ok

    I can sort of see where Nowhere is coming from, maybe the Dr saw you were pregnant, and thought they should say something, but really that is up to your pregnancy care providers to discuss with you, time and place, people! And none of that Dr's bloody business. It had nothing to do with the situation. I hope your little man feels better soon

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