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    The first day of kindy??
    DD got her acceptance letter in the mail yesterday and i burst into tears.
    I am having major issues with the fact that shes not going to be with me when shes at kindy. I hate the fact im not going to know whats shes doing or be involved in it. Shes my little buddy...what the heck am i gona do without her.
    I cant see myself saying 'see ya in 6 hours' and walking away from her. Im going to be an absolute MESS the first day! Shes NEVER been to daycare or even with anyone for any extendend period of time.
    So, how did you handle the first day of kindy.
    I guess im really asking about the first born and who havent been to daycare etc.

    HELP, is this normal?? Will i get over this?? It makes me so sad to think about.
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    Fine. I had visited several times before and spoken with the teachers so i felt comfortable, i also hung around for a while to make sure DD was okay before i left and came back a little bit early so i could talk to the teachers about how she went. It all went smoothy, thankfully. DH also came which helped.

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    I think I might feel the same when DD goes!

    She's stayed with family plenty of times overnight, etc. without me there. So it's not that I am always with her. But she's never been looked after by strangers (apart from once in a gym creche as a baby!) and I already feel sad thinking about it!

    As for school... sniffle...

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    I will add DD had never used childcare or anything like that before so i was nervous (and a little teary) but she was okay. I think it normal to feel that way

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    The school did a few days the year before, some sort of induction, it was only for 2 or so hours each day. The first few days you stayed, then you stayed for half the time, then you left for the whole time.
    Then when Kindy actually started, they split the class in half. The first day you stayed with your child for their half day session, the second day you left your child for the half day session. The third day you left your child for the whole day, then the fourth day they introduced the whole class together.
    The whole process really helped get my DD1 settled in. Still a few tears after then, but not for long.
    The school also requires you stay and do an activity with your Kindy child just to settle them into their class every morning.

    You can still be involved! Most schools do parent helpers where you go in for a certain amount of time to help, it's a great opportunity to see how your child interacts in class etc.

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    Default Re: How did you deal with...

    Our Kindy did something similar to runaway princess, they called it staggered start. It eased parents and kids into the whole thing nicely, without it being overwhelming. You could also see if its possible for you to volunteer as a parent helper, they might be happy for you to stay a bit extra and help write names on artwork, do playdoh etc. and when you do need to leave her there, it's important you have something planned, coffee with a friend, or an appointment etc, so you are not sitting home fretting. It's a big thing but it's life, and it's a good thing. I'm about to wave my eldest of to primary school, and my sister is waving her eldest off to uni.

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    oh it is so normal to feel the way you do! i was a total mess when dd started kindy. im the same as you, shes my buddy, my little friend and helps me so much with her little brother.

    sending her to kindy took a few weeks to get used to. our kindy has an open door policy (which im sure most do) so parents can help out with lunches or just pop in. i did a lot of lunches!! seeing her enjoying herself made it easier for me to let her go. and i kept telling myself "she is too precious to be locked up home with me all her life. she needs to share her goodness with the world"

    she is now transitioning in to school. now THAT is a different story all together. 5 days a week? til shes 18? i am not coping at all

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    OMG you are ME!!! We started in Jan this year and I felt just the same! The first day when I left her she was fantastic, pick up however was horrid. She was in tears as she thought I wasn't coming back to get her and she wouldn't let either of the Teachers comfort her, broke my heart to think that she thought that.

    It didn't help either that for the next 6 weeks she put on a H U G E turn everytime I dropped her off. I would save the tears until I left then fall apart in the car. Just awful. I have a friend who's little girl goes there too, and she would ring me 15 mins after I left and tell me that she was fine!

    She never went to daycare and had never been left with ANYONE other than my husband and myself for that long, so it was expected really.

    I'm happy to report that she now LOVES kindy and tells me often. She has many friends there and some will be going to prep with her next year. I was sooo tempted to pull her out, but she really needed it to prepare her for school. They learn so many things and whilst it feels like you're missing an arm, you'll learn how to use the time to your best advantage (you know with all that exciting stuff like washing, ironing, cleaning and food prep).

    Wishing you all the luck in the world, it was hard for us, but soooo worth it. I've watched my little girl go from quiet to confident and much more independent.

    DD2 starts next year and I can't wait and neither can she!!

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    Thanks ladies,
    Its nice to know im not the only falling apart over this.
    Deep down i know i will get over it (eventually, i hope) and im not at all worried about her...shes is so outgoing and social she will make friends before the car door closes . Its 100% my issues.
    We have a couple of open days coming up so that should help me (i hope ).

    Thanks again for the support


 

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