DS1 hasn't generally been a very social kid with children his own age and has only recently started getting more interested in developing friendships (he's four). He sees my friends kids regularly but hasn't really 'clicked' with anyone. Until today.
I was introduced to another mum through a mutual friend and she has a little boy a year older than DS1. They hit it off BIG TIME and played solidly for two hours. It was absolutely wonderful seeing him so happy playing with another kid and they left best of friends.
But here's the issue. His new friends Mum doesn't believe in discipline. At all. She's open about this. During the catch up her five year old was jumping on the top of her car, washing his dirty hands in her drink (not fingers, entire hands), telling me my baby smelt like cr*p (he had a dirty nappy which I was changing, so true, but I would have thought 'poo' would have been nicer for that age. I just responded gently. 'He does smell a bit like poo doesn't he? I'm getting him changed now.'), calling out nasty names to us as we were talking, throwing rocks at DS1 and spitting at us. She also mentioned that she once didn't bathe him for a month because he didn't want her to.
Now he is a nice kid, and she's is a nice person, but DS has his own share of challenging four year old behaviours at the moment which we're working on and some days are full on. I insist that he uses his manners, listens when spoken to and is gentle and kind. He's prone to having feral days too at the moment so me being consistent is really important.
I guess I'm concerned that DS1 is going to pick up a lot of bad habits from his new friend and fight against the good habits I'm trying to help him develop. But at the same time I'm so happy for him that he's clicked with someone I want to be supportive.
If I go to the get togethers I'm thinking of the boys will see eachother a couple of times a week at least. Would it bother you if your child's new best friend was being raised so differently to how you're raising your own child? Or would you ignore it and just be consistent with how *he* should act and not worry about the other boy?