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    Default Re: Living with a drug addict *TRIGGER WARNING, DISTRESSING CONTENT*

    Sorry, you seem like a strong and loving and amazing partner.. he is lucky to have you. But he is most Definitely not reformed in any way. Yes drug addicts lie.. convincingly too as you know. I personally think you should walk away.. It seems you are waiting for.. something.. maybe another confession so you can be sure?
    This pattern could go on forever and ever. Nothings ever going to change if everyone keeps doing the exact same thing he uses, he lies, he confesses, you get mad, he says he wants to die and you freak out and take him back in.. that's no way for either of you to live. I feel for you so much. I hope you can speak.to someone, maybe one of his regular counsellors/doctors? and get some clarity on all this.

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    Eko: I know all about what he is doing with the codeine and why. I hate that just as much as the heroin. He has even been banned from some local chemists because they have noticed him coming in too often to buy it. Bloody oath it's dangerous, he has been passing blood from it and everything. You are so right, he is using it as a crutch for when he can't get his heroin.. or, in his head, he feels "at least it's not smack".. he's said this. I hate the valium as well. He will initially let me hold onto them and dose him, but he has gone to different doctors as well and just taken the whole lot in one go.

    Heroin is the devil. Such an awful, horrid drug. It destroys lives, rips apart families and turns good, honest (most of the time highly depressed and mentally ill) people into demons. Ansolutely nothing stands between an addict and that drug, until they do see the light.

    You guys have all been very supportive and given me much needed advice. I know there's no magic answer.. I know I should leave, but it's like pps have said, I love him and it's an unconditional love, for better or worse.. but I then I have the kids to consider. I can't have them having an addict for a dad.
    I would have left a long time ago I think, if the fear of him killing himself wasn't there. It's a catch 22, really.. stay with him, live this roller coaster, messed up and exhausting life. Leave, bury him. I know that it's not my fault if he does do that, but I cannot fathom living my life knowing I left him to die. Even though I shouldn't be made to watch him slowly ebb away anyway. It's just a terrible situation and the ONLY thing that will fix it is if he, once and for all, quits.
    It's an endless cycle.

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    Default Living with a drug addict *TRIGGER WARNING, DISTRESSING CONTENT*

    I do not envy your situation at all, you poor thing. I feel for you and the kids (and him) soooo much He needs rehab and to deal with the issues he can't face otherwise he will just keep going back. There really is no easy answer is there? Huge hugs xxoox
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    To those of you who shared your experiences on here I've read each reply and my heart aches for you guys as well. Merlsy (my god your story is heartwrenching) Munch & moo, Frenchknickers, pinkplease and bum mum (hope i've listed you all, cant see the thread as type). It's a sh!tty club to be a part of but I appreciate your sharing, it's not easy.. so many times I wanted to make this thread but never had the guts to do it. As it is I'm using an alias and another account..
    Thanks.

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    Default Living with a drug addict *TRIGGER WARNING, DISTRESSING CONTENT*

    There is an addiction private chat section too. It has been quiet lately but its there if you need it, even just to vent xo

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    I've watched my parents, brother and cousin go through this. While its hard he can stop if he wants to. No matter how much you force him to he needs to want to do it.
    My brother got a implant it cost around $3k and it last 3 months if your partner is really wants to stop I'd suggest getting the implant and doing the detox again. Then counselling and everything else he needs. But once again he has to want to stop. If he hides it from you you are better off leaving now, it's not a nice thing for a child to grow up around and while he can afford his habit now, that will only last so long then he will start looking for things to sell it stealing from your wallets.
    Huge hugs it's really really hard!

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    Default Living with a drug addict *TRIGGER WARNING, DISTRESSING CONTENT*

    I've been thinking of you op. How are you going?


 

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