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    Default Returning to work after m/c -awkward

    I had a mmc and had to have a d&c last Tuesday. I was 11 weeks and the baby was 9 weeks.

    I hadnt told anyone at work that I was pregnant- other than my boss. Naturally I assumed going back to work this week would not really be an issue.

    Today a colleague came into my office and asked (in a really odd way) if I was feeling better...

    I was a little thrown by this as it is Thursday and I have been at work all week- so I said "what do you mean?". He said "umm you know... After your umm illness... Last week". I said yeah kind of - I think it'll take some time but I am doing better thanks.

    To which he replied "yeah I heard. It probably will take time. Not that I would know. Being a man. (insert awkward laugh here)".

    I didn't know what to say so there was a good 45 seconds of painful silence before he left.

    What would make someone think I would want to talk about it if I have not said a single word to them about being pregnant- let alone this?

    Also 'my illness' WTF?

    Sorry had to vent!!

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    I'm sorry for your loss. Sounds like your boss had been telling people I can't really give any advice on this situation as I wasn't working when I lost my bub, but I probably wouldn't have wanted to talk about it at work either. And how rude of him to think he could say something!

    Best of luck for the future and if you're trying again I hope you get a sticky bub very soon xx

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    Default Returning to work after m/c -awkward

    I'd have words with my boss to see if he breached privacy rules (my workplace has them).

    But I'd understand if you didn't want to make an issue out of it.

    Sorry for your loss...

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    How awful. Speak to your boss. That's very unprofessional!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by KCT View Post
    How awful. Speak to your boss. That's very unprofessional!!
    Yes I forgot to add this in my original post.

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    Default Returning to work after m/c -awkward

    Thanks for your replies. I was wondering if I was just over reacting but I am really annoyed that he is just clearly telling the office my personal business.

    Would prob rather not make a scene right now tho...

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummyRhi View Post
    Thanks for your replies. I was wondering if I was just over reacting but I am really annoyed that he is just clearly telling the office my personal business.

    Would prob rather not make a scene right now tho...
    Could you possibly address it in an email, and perhaps say you feel uncomfortable talking about it face to face?

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    Could you possibly address it in an email, and perhaps say you feel uncomfortable talking about it face to face?
    That would be less confrontational.. I may sleep on it and if I am still mad in the morning I'll definitely say something - or write something

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    That would be less confrontational.. I may sleep on it and if I am still mad in the morning I'll definitely say something - or write something

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    Default Returning to work after m/c -awkward

    That's awful. Your boss should not have said anything without your permission. I think an email is a good idea, good to have it in writing.

    The whole senior management team knew about my m/c and it was a little weird going back to work. People just don't know what to say but feel they should say something.

    I hope you get your sticky bub soon.

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