As the title says, I am in need of some advice to help a friend.
Tragically 4 weeks ago a friend of mine was killed in a car accident leaving behind her DH and 2 beautiful children. The 2 kids were in the car when the accident occurred but thankfully her DS (4 years) came out with minor injuries and her DD (14 mths) was in ICU for a few days with head and neck injuries but both will make a full recovery.
Her DD has since been sent home but she is in a cast that doesn't allow her much movement from the waist up.
I went around today to give my friends DH some food for himself and kids and well he just isnt coping and im not sure what I can do. As their DD is quite an active child she is extremely frustrated in the cast and although she can sort of walk and crawl around she is hard to keep entertained.
She is not sleeping very well at night and the poor guy just isnt getting any sleep. Of course I have done the obvious things like offering to come and babysit so he can get some sleep but she is extremely clingy to her dad right now so doesnt easily settle for anyone else. He is really finding it hard to deal with the loss of his wife (for obvious reasons) and although he has support from his mum and his wifes mum they both run farms and find it hard to get away and dedicate all their time to him.
He even told me tonight that when he does goto sleep at night that he doesnt even want to wake up in the mornings but he knows he has to be there for the kids and just doesnt know how to keep going.
So basically i was just wondering if any of you out there have been in a similar situation and can help shed some light on what I can do. Like I have said I have offered to babysit whenever possible and will be taking around meals on a regular basis, help with school runs etc but I just feel so helpless.
I noticed tonight that he has lost weight and basically looks like crap. I just dont know what to do My heart is just breaking for him