Fathers day and 1 year two one week apart

[Yolandac31]

My dad died on last year 8/9/11. Dads death was unexpected caused by an aneurism and we were called later that day by an uncle and flew to nsw to see him, the next day we decided with the advice of doctors that he had no chance of life so had to cut life support.
I am having trouble with the first fathers day and first year anniversary in 1 week of each other. My brothers decided to go to Sydney for the anniversary but I decided against as I know I will be a wreck anyway and didn't see the point in getting flights and accommodation to cry more. I think I might be regretting my decision now. - did I do the right thing?

Every where I go has fathers day plastered everywhere. DH's parents are on holidays so they can't even take my mind off it for one weekend.

How would you celebrate a life lost? I just feel like crawling in a hole for the next few weeks!

[Ms Kez]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know exactly how hard it is as my dad's passing was unexpected for me also and he passed away a wk and half prior to xmas and his funeral was 3 days before xmas. I found the very first one of everything after my dad passed away very hard and I still do and it's been 3 years now. I brought a nice scented candle for my dad and lit it and sat there thinking about him with a wine. Sure I cried, I still do, but that candle has become very special to me and it's my connection to him. As my dad passed away in a different state also, I feel torn sometimes that I should go to the cemetry but I still can't bring myself to do it. Instead I get family members to pass on my love to dad when they are at the cemetry and I have my own little talk to dad at my house. I hope you find a way that helps you get thru these times also.