OP , Ralph Lauren do have a great variety of colours for boys , my DS has plenty of pink and navy polo shirts , and a few purple t shirts, DH has some lovely pink and lavender colored business shirts that look great with his navy suits, I gaurantee you my DH is very much a boys boy but loves fancy suits for work ( if anything a lot of his friends have copied him and now wear similar colours) and yes most of the better designers all have pastels/pinks/mauves which look great on guys
Sorry but I have not read everything, but you said, that he said he wishes he was a girl. Have you thought about seeing a counsellor or psychologist to discuss this further? Perhaps you have a special boy (obviously) but feels trapped. Or do I just watch too much dr Phil??
It's not my strength I'm concerned about, I would have hoped that was pretty clear.
I have two suggestions...
1. Speak to the school if you're scared about teasing. Maybe addressing gender stereotyping in class will help make it an easier transition if in future he starts to want too take more to school etc.
2. White clothes and fabric dye
You are wonderful to be thinking not only about what is right, but what is real about society at present
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Sorry my previous post sounded a bit harsh I know you have his best interests at heart I also know what it is like to constantly challenge society based on your own beliefs/ideals. I'd hate to be broken and oppressed and squished into a square box when clearly I'm round
It's a tough one but I think I would let him after explaining everything to him about the potential reactions he might receive.
We were talking about gender stereotypes at uni last night and two stories came up that gave me hope. One was about a little boy who wanted to wear the school dress. His parents spoke to the teachers of the school, psychologists etc. and decided that he could wear a dress to school. They also emailed the parents of the kids in his year at school to let them know that their son would be wearing a dress to school. He went to school in his dress happily, and it was pretty well a non issue.
Then there's the story of a boy with a unisex name who has gone right through school as a boy. 6 months ago the boy was playing and another kid fell on top of him and realised that he had breasts, and was in fact a she. This was discovered when the kids were 13. The woman telling the story, her son is in this boy's year of school and he came home and spoke about what had happened but it has just been a non issue. She said it was like the kids just went 'ok so T is a girl who really wishes she was a boy, whatever' and moved on from it and just went about school like normal.
So yes I would...perhaps I'd just start off slowly, letting him wear dresses to friends houses who's parents will be understanding or to family, days out where you've travelled a bit to get there and are unlikely to run in to friends from his school etc. and let him build up his confidence to face the big wide world that way?
My youngest daughter hates pink and has short hair. She loves dresses (blue and yellow ones) but in winter she's had a few people comment and call her a boy. She hasn't picked up on it yet and I'm not sure how she'll cope if she hears it...whether it will have an effect or not. She already says 'I like boy colours' which she has picked up from pre-school because it's certainly not the attitude we have here and even my 6 1/2 year old tell her that there is no such thing. My 6 1/2 year old would be 110% accepting of one of her male classmates wearing a dress. It's something we discuss a fair bit actually.
My son gets called a girl all the time. He has long hair and despite his favourite shirt being one with a big motorbike on the front he still gets called a girl.
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