DH was the same when DD was first born BUT he was working 12+ hours. our "compromise" was him hiring a cleaner one a day every week. When DD was a baby she would stay all day and even chuck something in the slow cooker for us now that DD is older and DH isn't as much of a slob she only comes for a few hours a week.
I refuse to be DHs maid. I have better things to do.